Mid-20s, NYC, HF, have never dated before. Would like to start. Two issues:

1. No recent pictures of myself.
2. Kinda opposed to virtual dating/zoom calls, but open to it if that’s the only option. What are current expectations for meeting up?

Advice?

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Don’t listen to the guy advising you to take selfies. 1) put on your spiffiest outfit 2) Go to trendy spot in city 3) order a fancy cocktail 4) ask someone to take a picture of you in front of trendy city spot with cocktail in hand 5) secure date

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I play in a mixed-gender video game group with several couples. My plan is just to tailor my responses to what might make good conversation given my judgement of the girl.

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Try Hinge. And go on coffee/drink dates. I hate to say this, but it’s sometimes a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there and meet a bunch of people to get an idea of what your likes/dislikes are in a partner. Although, putting yourself out there in this covid climate may be a bit harder. Good luck!

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Thanks, my friends have said good things about Hinge.

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Sorry what’s HF, half-female?

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What is wrong with that description?

Take some selfies and be open-minded.

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Only do coffee chats or a drink for first time meet ups. It’s gonna save you a shit ton of money. There are people out there that will literally use you for meals.

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Appreciate the advice.

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I feel like all the other responses are from males. As a female—get some recent photos. Selfies aren’t ideal but one or two is fine. Can’t you find a friend to take one of you? If the answer is no, I’d focus on this more than dating tbh. Get a coffee or juice or drink, suggest a walk, or other outdoor activities. Getting dressed up, going to a trendy spot, etc etc is fine if thats you. But I’m skeptical it is considering you’re in your mid 20s and haven’t dated. You’re going to find a certain type of person at those places. Using the apps is way easier and every type of person is on them.

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Appreciate the perspective. I can get a friend to take a pic or two - it’s a little tough as a lot have moved home during Covid - but I don’t really have any recent ‘organic’ photos outside of that.

Trendy is fine, I can fit in fine with that crowd, I just find them a little tiring. If this really ends up being a numbers game as Attorney1 says, I’ll probably end up there at some point anyway.

What is your ideal age range for a date?

Ok, I agree with the advice of Zs1 above.

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Any particular reason why you’ve not dated before?

Oh, that’s sad. Thanks EY2.

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