My bf is having a hard time with SIP and has admitted that he’s bored. We live together, both WFH (thankfully). I enjoy my work and don’t mind working late because it’s needed at the moment. His workload is super light (government job). Whenever I suggest doing a new covid activity all I get back is “nah, I don’t feel like doing that now”. Airbnb has online experiences, there are online museum tours, language learning, etc he doesn’t want to do any of it. But then complains he’s bored.

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So instead of talking it out with him.
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Looks like she is looking for some advice, looks like you are being rude DUDE

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Have you been boning? Maybe suggest more of that? Could be a good opp for both of you to pass the time and learn some new things about one another.

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Get him playing Skyrim. You won’t see him for days.

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He is grieving and potentially has mild depression with the complete overturning of his routine. It may be especially hard on him since he is an extrovert, who tend to get their energy from being around other ppl. Exercise is probably the best medicine to get his mind off of things at the moment. Even a walk around the neighborhood (if allowed and with safe social distancing) and seeing neighbors can be a mood booster.

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Ask him about his passion or hobbies and see if you can help him in anyway. This is the best time to pick a new hobby or passion...

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What's sip

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Shelter in Place. The specific legal order given by state governments to stay at home and not go out.

Honestly - maybe just stop suggesting thing and let him figure out how to not be bored or suggest things. When I suggest too many things to my husband, he starts to reject them all. Keep yourself occupied and see if he finds stuff himself.

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I get SIP is hard ... he’s just so tired of being at home (I get that...I feel it too...everyone does). But he’s just so reluctant to try anything new. He’s an extreme extrovert, loved going out with friends, playing sports, etc. Didn’t have many “alone” hobbies / pursuits. He’ll do zoom with friends over drinks, Netflix, video games. But there’s only so much of that stuff a person can do.

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His problem, not yours

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I like this. Women take on this emotional burden way too often, when men should be able to make themselves happy on their own. You can be supportive, but it’s not her job to make him happy.

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Let him be. And I’m not saying this to to be rude or a smart ass. Around week 4 of staying in place I started struggling but it wasn’t just bc I had to stay in place it was because it finally hit me that this isn’t going away anytime soon. The thought of uncertainty just got to me and as a result I stopped the little that I was doing to deal with SIP( my exercise routine etc.). My SO constantly suggested I did stuff and it just got me annoyed bc it’s not like I couldn’t come up with those ideas myself. I was handling something way more complicated than ‘being bored’ or finding motivation to work out. Just be there for him and let him be.

have y’all tried legos? my bf loves that stuff whereas i’m indifferent

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