My Boss Gives Conflicting Instructions Then Blames Me

She gave me two totally opposite directions on a project, then criticized me for following the “wrong one.” I even showed her the emails. She shrugged and said, “You should’ve checked.” How do you survive leaders who rewrite history?

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Looks like a very new boss who is unsure herself

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Hr here… I see it constantly in advertising. It’s disgusting.

Give her some time, she is settling into a new role it seems

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Nope. Do not put up with gaslighting in any form. In time, I bet she gets worse. The devil wears Prada

Currently, she appears to be overwhelmed and torn between being a star individual performer to a wannabe leader

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I would try to move to a different team asap... or move companies if the situation gets worse. Just make sure to document everything and anything in the meanwhile. You need the receipts!

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I had the same issue with a tech lead. The guy was wicked smart, but contradicted himself all the time. Every time I would say what he said and then ask him to confirm that I got it right. Later he would say the opposite. It took me a few times to stop trusting him. Also, he was a Ruskie. I wonder if he was trying to subvert our democracy…

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We had the same manager. I always use email because in writing do we trust.

I used to have a boss like this - it was so hard to work with! They’re just power hungry and it goes to their heads.

Ugh I couldn't work like a person for that. I cannot stand people who can't take accountability. Even after you show them their own emails.

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