My experienced fellas, need some help: wife does a disappointing thing, then gets upset when I’m disappointed. I’m at a loss

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She knows she let you down and feels bad about it. You don’t need to make her feel worse. So maybe let the situation calm down before talking about it.

Also, maybe let some things slide? It is is tough when you do 9/10 things right and your spouse has a go at you for the 1 thing you got wrong.

Of course, if she is getting more stuff wrong then have a constructive conversation about helping her out. Satisfying your need to vent is not the priority.

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It sounds like there may be some miscommunication or misunderstandings happening between you and spouse.

1. Take some time to cool off: If you're feeling upset or disappointed, it's important to give yourself some space to cool down before talking to your wife. This can help you approach the situation more calmly and rationally.

2. Practice active listening: When you do talk to your wife about the situation, try to actively listen to what she has to say. Repeat back what she says to ensure that you understand her perspective.

3. Use "I" statements: Instead of blaming or accusing your wife, try to use "I" statements to express how you feel. For example, say "I feel disappointed when you do X" instead of "You always do X and it's so frustrating."

4. Work together to find a solution: Rather than focusing on assigning blame or fault, try to work together with your wife to find a solution that works for both of you. Brainstorm different ideas and strategies until you find one that feels like a good fit for your relationship.

Remember, communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to approach difficult conversations with empathy, patience, and an open mind.

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Is she still breastfeeding or pumping? I only ask Bc their hormones are all over the place and I’d say not to take things too personally.

Yeah majorly this. My wife was a train wreck emotionally through this time.

Strange, track her location

You need to provide more details. It could be your fault.

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