My feedback I received this year I want to actively go to HR about.
For context, we have regular weekly team meetings where everyone who is not part of the current conversation or topic are multi-tasking. So no one except the speaker or listeners are engaged.
My feedback was that I needed to "smile and actively recognize others efforts".
This feedback was not applied to the entire team, who obviously ​have been watching, and just to me.

This feels personal. And nothing to do with my work

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I wouldn’t say it’s personal but it is about visibility and that includes how you look. It’s dumb and superficial but good work is not enough to hold a job or get good feedback. I had to learn the hard way multiple times thinking my work was enough - it’s not, good work is basically the standard.

I switched industries for now and am going back to school for something that is of service.

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It’s giving “Smile sweetie” patriarchy vibes

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That's exactly how it feels.
I did go to HR and met with them about it. They agreed it was gendered, irrelevant to my work, and was based on perceptions of me and was irrelevant and was removed. ​

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You sound like fun

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