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My impression is that he is normalising behaviour - although unintentionally - that may lead to discomfort and unnecessary pressure on people who would rather avoid age subject and rightfully so.
I know he doesn’t mean it. Is it wrong of me to question, whether he learned anything from that allyship training at all?
I wouldn't phrase the question that way. I would try to outline some things that seem inappropriate for employees to ask questions about (age, health, religion, and politics) and try to explain that the question about the age was inappropriate whether or not a single employee thinks so.
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Agreed with Manager 1 - a rephrase of the question is needed. It's awesome that your manager took training but allyship is not a one and done thing... it will take them time and practice.
I would just say how you feel about the situation - you feel like their response, while intended well, could make others uncomfortable and perpetuate a cultural of exclusive language.
If you feel up to it, you could even thank them for taking the allyship training but remind them that were all in the juroney of allyship together
You're spot on for addressing inappropriate questions. Kudos for speaking up! Your manager's response might just reflect his personal comfort level, but setting a boundary is important. Keep championing a respectful workplace! 🙌🗣️
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My guess is they didn’t cover things specifically around age or how to ask questions, or understand how to be a good Ally, which makes me question the training at all. You definitely should be asking people what their ages in a meeting like that.