My well meaning boss takes a lot of time explaining every nuance of how to do a task to me to make sure I understand it. The problem is that I figure out what he's saying on the first sentence and then I zone out. I wish he would get to the point!! Not sure how to ask for that from them, I truly know it's kind of them to be willing to spend their time explaining but I just need the point

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Are you sure you understand every nuance?
It’s natural to think you know, but there may be details that you don’t. And nothing is more frustrating than having people say “yes I understand” one minute in, then a day or two later come back with incomplete work or questions that were already addressed in the initial assignment meeting.

If you really do know, for sure, it would be ok to interrupt and say “I think I understand. So you want a, b, and c.? Yes I’ll do that, and here is how”.

Just a few weeks ago an employee assured me he got it, but days later it turned out he didn’t. Don’t be that guy.

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Active listening is a difficult, but extremely important skills to master for many reasons. You don't want to be giving your boss the impression that you don't care what he says, and you also don't want to miss important details because you decided to fill in the blanks yourself and stop listening. When I'm in these situations, I like to pretend I could be thrown a silly curveball at any second and if I miss it it will screw up the entire project.

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The ADHD curse is that I'm super impatient when other people are talking, but I'm very long-winded and err on the side of explaining in great detail and nuance when I talk.

Maybe your boss has ADHD as well. Most of us who do tend to overexplain. It’s one of our traits.

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