My wife and I have a 2 (almost 3) year old that is 110% boy. He loves rough play and has a ton of energy. I’m able to do that with him, but my wife doesn’t really bond with him that way. For the past few months he’s been obsessed with me, and frequently tells mom to “go away” or “leave us alone”. It really hurts her feelings, and she’s about to take the summer off and be with him every day. Any advice on how I can get him to enjoy time with her more / help them bond?

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You gotta meet kids where they are. There is a reason that girl dad memes of dads playing Barbies or having a tea party with their daughters are a thing. Find a physical, fun game that your wife can tolerate playing with your son.

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I second this. I feared my future was the opposite OP. Our 2 year old boy loves roughhousing with mom and tried with me but I was honestly afraid of hurting him because I’m a large person. So, I started just laying on my back and letting him do his worst. If he’s got energy and we’re both in the room, he basically just pinballs between getting flipped by mom and jumping on me.

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There are some indoor gymnasiums/trampoline parks that are fun for both kids and adults. Maybe your wife could take him there. They often offer pretty reasonable monthly passes too.

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This is great advice. Our almost three year old sounds like he's 90% boy on your scale and my wife takes him to the little gym every week. He can run around and jump until his heart's content but there are a number of stations that require her help, which allows them to bond a bit.

If you watch Bluey, there is a game called "Raiders" that involve the parent rolling an exercise ball down the hallway while the kids run and try to escape it. She could do that as a way to play physical without having to actually roughhouse. Could make that a "mom only" game

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Kids bond with mom when they cuddle and bond with dad when they roughhouse. Just gotta get him tuckered out first, dad

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OP- your post reads like something I would’ve written for my son when he turned 3! Similar temperament and he’s always rough-housing with me. I thought he’d grow out of it but he’s now 7 and more attached to me than ever. My wife is now the primary care giver as I travel a fair amount for work these days. She’s expressed a lot of disappointment but isn’t willing to change how she engages him. She continues to try things like craft, reading, board games… but that hasn’t really worked either. She’s now pushing for a second kid 😂

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Just found out we’re having a second. Crossing fingers for her sake that it’s a girl 😂

Very helpful - thanks fellas!

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