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Read "Expecting Better" by Emily Oster. If you want to be pregnant in next 6 months, do some tracking. Window is pretty narrow. If you want kids in next 2 years, just pull the goalie and see what happens.
Kept her insides well glazed. More fun to enjoy yourselves than get all serious about this day or that day. Two kids later, no regrets.
It was intense. Frustration bc you didn’t realize how hard it was to get pregnant. When in the movies it’s all about how easy ppl got preggers. Pretty ironic
It varies. We got lucky. Literally we decided and it happened the very first time. My wife the next day was like "I think it's happened". And it had. Almost wish we could have enjoyed the non-rubber intermediated nookie a little more.
The second bun's in the oven now, this one took about 3 months. She was 29 for the first, 31 for this one.
The more north you go, the more of a science project it becomes. And the more costly.
There’s a cavernous difference between 32 and 38. Took us three years and a lot of science for my wife to give birth at 41. Three years before a pregnancy that stuck, for those counting at home .
Trying to have kids can be stressful. Once you start trying it might take months, and each month that goes by has the potential to be really emotionally draining. My suggestion is that at the moment you decide “we want to start trying in a few months...” - you shouldn’t wait any longer, just start trying then and there. You can’t even get fertility help until you’ve been trying for a year, and by then you’ll be losing your minds. It can put real stress on the relationship. You’re only fertile a few days a month, when you’re ovulating. Get the ClearBlue ovulation tracker so you know exactly when your partner is fertile. Good luck!
Don't stress about it prematurely. It can be hard, it can be easy. For both of our kids, my wife was pregnant within a month of going off the pill.
On a somewhat related note, we had no idea how common miscarriages were until my wife had one. If that happens to you, don't conclude there's something wrong with you. Me wife felt extremely guilty until she realized over the course of months that most of the couples we knew also had had that happen and just never talked about it.
Thanks for the thoughts everyone. We are both north of 30
Be patient and enjoy the time trying. Especially for your first. Don’t make a big deal of it because stress won’t help, and will ruin the intimacy. My wife and I tried for 9 months and at times it was frustrating but man was it fun and, until we started parenting, it was the closest I’d ever felt to her.
Or a more organic, it’ll happen when it happens and let’s just enjoy our life together process? I’m finding myself somewhat stressed out about the need to HAVE to do things when I’m naturally really laid back and easygoing
And frankly so is she until recently. I’m just wondering what other experiences out there are. Thanks!
Agreed varies wildly... obgyn said it would take at least 6 months coming off the pill for a decade, most likely a year...1.5 months later surprise!
Remember one thing. There will never be a rule on this. We waited for our first for 1.5 year (and conception happened 2 days after we decided to buy a home instead of being stressed about it - ha, the power of the unconscious on your body), and our second was conceived 2 days after IUD removed (not even trying for the sake of trying at that time). Remember this is one of the rare cases where nature takes over. Just wait and try not to be stressed if it takes more time. Just trust nature
It is universally hard after a certain age. Or are you all 25? You didn’t mention how old your partner was. This is material.
There are no hard cutoffs in biology. Google "Duggars" for counterexample.
Thankfully we did not have any issues...3 kids and snipped 🍒 later we had to actively NOT get preggers.
We read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. We learned a lot and used it’s methods. Worked for us
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