Our company insists we do monthly after-work "team bonding" outings. They're always awkward and no one actually enjoys them. How do you get out of this stuff?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Just say “no” or that you have a prior personal commitment. Those obligatory social event things are always awkward. I can appreciate a company looking to make things more open and welcoming and build morale (and a nice dinner is always a good thing) but I’m old school and prefer to keep my work and personal lives as separate as possible.

The only thank you I expect (or really want, to be honest) is the one that I get every other Friday. When you get right down to it, any company will lay you off as soon as look at you the instant they think they can save money by doing so. They’re not your buddy and you’re not theirs. Never forget that.

like

Sage advice

Use a SO or a dog as an excuse if you don’t have one, say that you do who cares haha

Call it overtime. Guaranteed to be abolished.

If it isn’t paid, I don’t go unless it’s a Friday and I’m interested. All our events are highly encouraged but optional. At least they are infrequent and everyone gets a free drink.

Related Posts

I learned that I unknowingly helped my coworker with a personal problem, and it made remember that even a short conversation can make all the difference.

like

Any one works in a one man / one woman tax department? How do you effectively manage the relationships with outside tax providers, and with accounting/finance department inside of the company? I have multiple weekly calls with different teams from our CPA firm, with accounting/finance team inside, I tend to address issues as they arise. I was told I have been managing well, but I want to make sure I'm not missing anything.

like

I’m a manager and one of my direct reports makes more than me. It really bothers me. Anyone else been in this situation before? What’s the best way to handle it?

like

What do you tell your CEO who wants ROI on PR campaigns?

like

Do you allow the community to discuss your direct competitors?

like

What do you do when you feel stuck and unappreciated in your company? You love the work but it goes unrecognised no matter how much value you provide and not rewarded fairly.
How do you guys deal with this situation?

like

Any embarrassing moments so far in your first projects?

like

I just got called for an interview next week. Yay! It’s at the school where I have been a para for several years and where I want to end up.

Any advice on how to dress and what to bring? Portfolio?

like

Can I still work as a telemarketer even though I have a noticeable accent? People don't say they can't understand me but they seem relieved when they get to talk to somebody else. My boss acts like I'm not very good at the job and I think it's because some customers think I am an "outsider," for lack of a better term. I just want to fit in.

like

What's the weirdest thing anyone has ever said to you at work? One time a co-worker divulged to me that they had a collection of troll dolls that they named and sometimes still played with.

like

I’m dealing with a difficult management situation and don’t know what to do, how would you report someone when nobody really cares what’s going on or is automatically going to side with the other person?

like

This week’s topic in our staff meetings is trauma and understanding the behavior of our students. Anyone else can’t help but take it personal when students lash out? 🙋🏻‍♀️

Do you guys respond to emails and phone calls over the weekend or have you been able to put boundaries in place wit your boss?

like

Just got let go and my manager said part of it was because I was looking for other jobs. I didn't look for other jobs at work, so I'm not sure how they could have known that unless a coworker snitched on me. Is it worth it to try and find out who or should I just leave it? Can't deny that I'm seriously pissed off about it.

like

I am so sick and fed up with some of the older clients at my job. I know it's my responsibility to take care of them, but they're just so sexist sometimes.

like

@women in the ME, I’m moving from NYC to Dubai. Is there some things to consider for attire in a business environment or is it the same as in NA? I’m thinking about business travel to other countries like KSA 👀

like

Kind of love my main client. She lowkey texts me when she steps away from calls to pee.

likefunny

Fashion Q: what kinds of pants do you guys wear day-to-day? I know skinny jeans are considered “out,” but super baggy mom jeans are not flattering on my small frame. I wear leggings when I’m WFH, but I want to look slightly more put-together/fashionable outside my home

like

Hello people, need a suggestion, i am working on devops since a few months, and i have been given a task, the deadline of which is tomorrow eod, and i have not been able to do anything significant since the last 2 days 🥺. We r a team of only 3 ppl and no senior is helping me out. My lead will surely scold me Tommorow 😕 What to do? How to handle situations like this? Can they terminate me if i get in such situations again?

like

About to start back in consulting and my IVF cycle is kicking off as well. How would you recommend broaching the topic with the lead office partner?

like

More Posts

Can someone at Google refer me for a job at Google for auditorGoogle

likefunny

Hey everyone i have joined Accenture as a fresher on career level 11 as a fullstack engineering Analyst. Cleared GFT and all learning stuffs. But i am on bench for approx 1.5 month. What to do?how to get project for base location gurugram or delhi ncr. I get mails but they are demanding 2+ year of experience. Can anyone refer me? I know java , spring framework and started learning react js.

like

Currently with PwC US and would like to move to PwC Australia for better work life balance. Anyone available to chat?

like

Looking at a Manager of Enterprise Operations role at FB. Can anyone help me understand what the total and cash comp for this might be? And how are the employment levels at FB?

Does anyone else think that IBKR’s customer service is kinda shitty compared to other brokerages?

like

Haven't been able to find much information on Disputes & Investigations bonus %s (at any level)... any insight is appreciated as I am just starting out!

like

I received an offer for $74k as underwriting analyst. Company is based out of DC. Is $74k a good offer? Or should I negotiate for more. 6 years in the industry. 5 as an account manager/underwriting assistant

like

Any recommendations for next steps or areas to grow for a partner success manager? Recommendations on industries to look at?

like

Anyone recently made a switch with 4.5 years of experience in SAP ABAP.
How much CTC other companies are offering at this recession time ?

like

Dipped my toes in some dumbass hype stock - 60 shares of FMCI, planning to sell within 2 weeks

like

I’ve practiced litigation in DC for about 5+ years at a larger plaintiffs’ firm, and am considering a switch to a defense firm. Is there any insight to how many billable hours this would require, and how much time that would actually be? For reference, the firm has a 1900 billable hour requirement and the partner said I would have “no problem” fulfilling that based on the work they have.

like

Does anyone use blue light glasses? Do they help? I get headaches almost every day and I’m sure it’s because I’m glued to the screen all day. Wondering how to alleviate them without popping 4 ibuprofens a day.

like

Which firm EY Consulting or KPMG Consulting. Not taken TC or level into consideration. Which firm would be better? (And no not considering Deloitte or PWC)

like

Wtff still the office address is not given 🥲🥲🥲

like

Anyone over here got email for new joiner welcome kit?

like

Hi Fishes,

Can someone tell me about
1.the WLB
2. job security
3. Internal/ yearly hikes
4. Growth , at Apisero.

Atleast on a high level,as per your knowledge.
YOE - 2¹/².

like

What could be the max for manager level in Bofa?Bank of America i have 8.5 yrs of work ex can i negotiate for Sr manager role however the opening is for manager level?

Hi fishes,

What are the benefits of working in bank of america other than ctc ?

If you wold like some assistance with classroom management or even managing your owe children, check this out this resource.

likehelpful

Additional Posts in Architecture Bowl

Hi Designers,
Been working as an Assistant Technician for 3 years (2 years excluding pandemic) pay is £21k now £22 adjusted for inflation. I will be completing my Part 1 in architecture but also have a degree in Technology, should I find a different company after graduation or take roles offering £30-45k as an Architectural Technologist/Technician.

smart

I recently moved to Dubai after getting married. I am still continuing my last job but eventually I'll hv to find a new opportunity here. I am from architecture background and wud like if someone who could help me with a referral. As far as my capabilities are concerned, I hv personally loved teaching and managing projects cz I am able to connect with my team/students and get the job done. So it'll be great if someone would want to give me a chance for who I am personally and not just on paper

like

Does anyone know if Dwell Design in DC is a good company to work for?

I am a designer with one year of experience in Philadelphia looking at moving to a new firm. Does anyone know if what the current salary places are hiring at for 1-2 years of experience?

like

I’m 27 & going to go to back to college for my bachelors. I have worked in the legal field for about 8 years & I’m burnt out. After a lot of research an thought I am leaning towards either architecture or interior design. I wanted to ask some advice from anyone working as an architect or interior designer. How do you feel about the field? What are the stress levels like? Do you enjoy it? Are you working at firm or are you working independently? Any info helps! Thanks 😊

likeuplifting

Trying to find freelance job or full time job I’m a draftsman Cad drafter and 3D visualizer

like

I got an offer to work at a Gensler office, but something has come up and need to move/work in a different city. Can I ask them to transfer me before I accept the offer? Will they do this if there is the same role currently open in the new city?

like

As an outsider, I’m curious if anyone here could list some of the top architecture firms are and what the title / comp progression might look like?

like

I’m curious to know if anyone has experience working part-time in architecture? I have been working for large international firms in NYC for the past 10 years. So I work all day every day. My evenings and often the weekends are all absorbed by work duties. Working part-time would allow me to find a better balance, and carve out space for side gigs and eventually start my own firm. Any recommendations?

like

What is your salary for your job with a brief description if how many years of experience you have and what area of the world.

like

Curious to know what other avenues people have taken in our industry to make more money. Currently getting OT which is nice since most places don’t offer that benefit but still doesn’t feel like it’s worth the long nights when the paycheck comes in.

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal