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Think they did a good job on this piece. It was a truly embarrassing moment for the firm, but I think it’s being handled as well as can be expected. Should go smoothly this year 🤞
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Yes, definitely difficult, but worth it. I agree with the poster. Age differences present different challenges. Next year my son goes from daycare (with my daughter) to K and thinking about the logistics is blowing my mind.
I found my first much harder than my 2nd in many ways. I had undiagnosed ppd, and just generally struggled to adjust to the sleep deprivation and lifestyle changes... worrying about everything... worrying about work and having to leave to get my kid from daycare. Honestly with the second the cliches are true to a degree. I’m way more relaxed and confident at the same time and have been much more able to enjoy it and go with the flow. Was I as vigilant about every milestone? Probably not.. but they are both doing great and I am, too.
Yes I have had a very similar experience!
The first year can be rough but after that it’s great. My boys are 18 months apart and now 5 and 7 and are the best friends. They have a built in friend at all times and it eases a lot of the working mom guilt because they are never alone.
I think it very much depends on the kids, too. My first was (and still is) hard and like you, I found motherhood more challenging than expected. My second was born 3 years and 3 months later (the perfect distance IMHO!) and not only was she a dream (and still is) compared to our son, but we also found each challenge less daunting, and becoming a big brother had a hugely positive effect on our son. Yes, there are a lot of logistics. Yes, it sucks when both are sick. But there is more than twice as much love, and it feels like a complete (to me) family. Wouldn’t change the decision for anything. Good luck!
My first was the hardest. Not bc he was hard but I was hard on myself. I had my second when my first was 4. It's been much easier. They have they're moments. But my son adores his little sis and she adores him back. I'm about to be 40 and considering a third!
Super easy. You’ll love it (as I wave you towards me...come with us to the dark side...you’ll love it here....muhahaha)
It’s definitely more challenging but not insurmountable. Age difference matters. Mine are about 2.5 years apart. The oldest regressed a bit when baby came - all potty training progress went out the window and bedtime became more difficult as she adjusted to it being her primary 1:1 time with us. But things balanced out after the first 6 months or so.
In the short term, not easy! In the long term, definitely easier!
I thought the second was easier than the first. All of the major changes you had to make with the first kid are already in place.
No advice, but I am in the same situation and could have written this post myself. Interested to see what others say/have said.
Thank you everyone! These responses are so helpful and encouraging
I had twins, so can't compare. First year was grueling. But now I love it. They have a playmate and I just love having the both of them and their different little personalities.
I actually felt like it got easier. They keep each other company. Totally depends on your kids, though.
I have found going from 1 to 2 was wayyyyy easier than going from 0 to 1. 0 to 1 was such a shock to my lifestyle. Now I’m used to that lifestyle and adding a second one was not a big deal at all. I love having two and think it’s so much more fun and not at all twice as hard.