Pre kid work ethic != post birth work ethic….just have to figure out how to make that known without getting fired.

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Same except I’ve never had a kid lmao I’m just old and over work. I’m done with trying and promotions and everything. Btw I’m 28 lol

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are you me

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Why do you have to make it known? You have to figure out how to do enough work with this realization but not get fired.

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Yeah don’t actually say this to anybody…

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It’s not work ethic…it’s different priorities. You don’t have to make it known. Just start setting boundaries with your time and keep doing your best otherwise.

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While I agree with your priorities, unfortunately they won't necessarily be relevant to others. So it's on you to time-box your commitments.

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Clearly there are more ways than 1 to interpret things. That may not be what you meant (which I can appreciate), it was what I heard so I’m glad we could clarify! Communication is a 2-way street

Oh, it’s cool, the rest of us don’t mind picking up your slack😑

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🙄🙄🙄

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You find ways to be more productive in less time- it’s growth. And also get really good at saying no.

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In this boat too

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Really interesting to read all the responses to OP. Life isn’t the same - nor should it be. But as Principal said, you really just need to get good at saying no. And if that becomes an issue, raise it with direct managers to work out a different schedule or reduce workload. And frankly if they’re not up to that task of helping you continue down your professional journey, then it’s their loss. In this day and age, leaders just need to be more mindful and learn to adapt. It’s not the 50s, single income families aren’t the norm, and we don’t have 3 nannies on hand.

In the same vein, you need to figure out your own priorities. Maybe you do need to reduce your workload and be okay with less comp. for a year or two. You shouldn’t be expected to do it all, but at the same time, you need to accept that you can’t do it all.

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