Salam everyone, I could really use some advice here.

Current job: Fully remote and good WLB. Total comp is 200K. I'm also close to my parents. Kids are young but settled in elementary school.
New job offer: Pays 85% more and offers more growth opportunities, but it requires relocating to another state and working in-office 5 days.

I’m fine with my current job, but from a growth standpoint, I’m leaning towards the new job. However, being away from my aging parents weighs heavily on me.

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85% is hard to pass up on. Is it a title jump as well? If so maybe take it and stay for a year and come back to your current company at a higher level/position? This all depends on your relationship with your current firm and team.

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I also wanted to add this: if you’re content with your current role and pay, and you can sustain your lifestyle and feel like you are able to save enough on this salary to meet your goals. Stay. Sure you’d be making a lot more but do you really need the extra money? Opportunities come and go so depending on your current needs you can always keep looking and find something that doesn’t require you to relocate with better pay.

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Walaikum Salam. I can see why that pay bump can be attractive but also other things in life can't be compared with a number.

Keeping in mind that higher pay will come with higher taxes, perhaps even cost of living changes in a new state, what could help is to do a deeper evaluation of what your actual net/take home pay increase would be along with a total net impact after any cost of living increase, etc, as well. Then you can evaluate and see how much increase you are truly getting, along with the non quantifiable aspect of distance from parents.... Also how far of a distance are we talking about?. If net $ increase is only marginal then maybe it's not worth. Hope this approach can add clarity IA. May Allah make it easy for you. Also pray istikhara!!

I know the above doesn't consider the potential growth aspect but nonetheless a potential perspective.

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Not sure if you can put a price on fully-remote nowadays as its harder to come by. If the kids are settled and you have a support system may be worth the lower pay when you add in the move and everything else.

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If you’re saving a considerable amount right now, I personally wouldn’t leave

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As someone with aging parents but no kids, I wouldn’t do it. You got Baraka already and a good thing going. Say Alhumdolillah and enjoy what really matters my friend.

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It may very well be that your rizq you get comes from your nearness to them.

The Prophet saws said "whoever wishes that his rizq is expanded and his life prolonged, let him maintain ties of kinship."

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How would your parents feel? If they feel strongly against you moving away, then that’s all the more reason to stay

Regardless of what you do, pray istikhara and you will have Barakah in whatever you decide

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Take the job. Move your parents in with you.

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