Talking to a girl long distance but it’s her first same sex experience - tips on how to not screw this up? Already noticing her acting a little distant but she’s coming to visit soon so I wanna see how things go in person

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Long distance and first same sex experience is a lot for one person. Good luck but be realistic - you’re not entirely set up for success here. Don’t be too hard on yourself and think you’re “screwing it up”

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Women aren't exactly my area of expertise so probably not the best advice here. Here a thought: they say men are drawn to what they see, while women are attracted to what they hear. My advice is to be honest about your feelings and communicate your concerns openly with her. I believe understanding where her head is at will help you navigate this situation better. When will she be visiting you?

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How do you feel about her wanting to stay with her first first?

Is she closeted or coming from a background where being LGBT is a big problem? If so, scaring her by being too queer too soon is a risk to consider. Getting to know her better over something chill and orientation neutral may be better than a huge event at a queer bar.

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I don't know where you are or when "soon" is, so plenty of bars or other events could be relevant.

Just be honest and be yourself

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🙏🏼🙏🏼 thank you

How did you meet?

Mutual friends!

Be authentic, be patient and go at the pace of the person who wants to go at the slower speed of the two of you.

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