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SERIOUS OPINIONS ONLY: mgmt consultants - how do we do so so good at solving BIG problems for clients - sometimes whether they want to buy this firm or not or generally how they should transform to serve customers that spans triple digits.. yet I feel myself completely broken applying any of my skills to my personal life.. I got questioned today, “you are a big consultant, yet your professional background doesn’t add up to how you execute personally” - and I realized it’s true..seriously sad

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Client issues vs. personal life / problems are vastly different. You may be able to apply some problem solving framework to your personal life, but at the end of the day you’re getting paid to solve client issues. That comes with compensation, recognition, and promotions. There isn’t someone standing there to pat you on the back or give you a bonus when you solve your own problems.

Essentially it comes down to motivation and rewards. There’s also the reality that we often put so much time and effort into our work, that we don’t have much left for the personal stuff. Or we’re pouring ourselves into work to avoid or escape our personal lives.

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How do you deal with that personally? DM me, because I really want some help, and not comfortable being judged here.

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OP, you got this. You identified a gap , weren’t able to solve for it, sought help, were selective about whose help you sought, apologized when you realized you might have come across as insensitive or arrogant, withstood the blowback that ensued, and re-focused on the main problem.

That’s 90% of the battle. There’s no silver bullet for the rest but it’s probably applying the same thing to your personal life. Also listening, empathizing, course-correcting and balancing deep thoughts with strong action. In the professional world rational thought is prioritized over emotions but on the personal front, it sometimes it needs to be the other way around.

Good luck!

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Thanks PL1

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The audacity of you pleabs commenting on OP without being MBB Partners

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Not sure if OP is serious with the response to Apple 1 here

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Does anyone else not understand what OP types? Literally sounds like 12 year old me on MSN.

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12 year old on MSN or a 63 year old guy on fox news

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just want opinions from MBB or D. P, MD, SMs, and Ms only, please. This is very important to me fam. If ya’ll amazing support structure can respect that.

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Wait I’m not a MD, so my advice is stupid, so feel free to disregard it. Good luck on finding your magic fix

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OP’s replies make them come off as a child. Can confirm most consultants are not like this — it’s a you problem

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I think your issue may be your priorities. Stop focusing on titles and labels and put in us much effort to developing yourself as you do solving your clients issues. This is a legitimate question, however qualifying that you only want MBB “or” managers + is problematic to me. I left consulting months ago and am now a manager, but don’t there are plenty of people who can balance both personal development and professional development (irregardless if they are at MBB)

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Thank you for understanding. Much appreciated and thanks for all you do!

Commenting since the arrogant OP doesn’t want my input.

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...and this is enough Internet for you for today, buddy

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Just trying to understand

And I’d just like to close out my contribution for the night by reminding OP that it seems like the top 3 most helpful responses to your question came from people who were not labeled as MBB or the senior level you asked for in their title. Again - you asked a compelling question that I think many have experienced and would have had a good viewpoint to help you think through - but please use this as a secondary learning opportunity (in addition to some of the meaningful feedback you have received here already to your primary) to consider your delivery and empathy

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Appreciate it. Thank You.

I’m taking bets on what drugs OP has done tonight. Comment below ⬇️

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Gotta be coke... only thing that’s ever made me get this emotional, paranoid, and weird

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Not sure what specific personal life situation or decision making on your side, but think I do a decent job for that for myself

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Exactly my point VP2. Should have told me need today by or need today before.. she self implied COB, which again she did not tell me either and text straight at five. I am like, yes going for a run and will pick up. I thought today means some point before tomorrow. So I am partly at fault to for not asking a counter question. But making a big deal out of this, come on!

Did you wake up today wanting to get roasted or is this just a regular occurrence for you

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Nope. Helpful viewpoints.

Ideally a company should optimize for sustained financial performance, and a human should optimize for personal happiness. The drivers and frameworks relevant to the former are completely different than those that are relevant to the latter. I’m actually not sure why you think skills in consulting would correlate at all to skills in executing a successful personal life at all.

There’s lots of good literature out there in happiness. My suggestion would be to read up on some of that to help shift your thinking a bit.

Good luck.

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You are being stupid now. No worries on that one.

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I am still waiting for an MBB partner to tell me how to procure an MTA card in less than a day

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No partners allowed! Only MDs, SMs, and Ms!

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Doers do and talkers consult

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Corrected. All management consultants. Thanks for your quick response.

I am having a real problem here, I don’t wish to be judged, so I put the subject line. It’s a more psychological question and hence I targeted it to a specific cohort. Don’t judge my intelligence to be arrogance or belittlement. Just want a focused discussion across the board. Please, this is important to me.

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It’s easier to tell others what to do than to do it yourself. This is why companies hire consultants, because they need that external perspective.

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Commenting as an associate here just to irk OP hehe

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I know I'm not MBB, or senior partner. But let me google this for you 😂😂😂

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I can say with confidence that what we do does not move the needle for org’s. We are there as a scapegoat and a means to an end. Yes, we are frauds and I want out.

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Me 2

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Just make sure that all your choices are MECE when making a decision.

Also when talking to your girl, frame all your responses in the form of we should do x because of a, b, c, etc.

/s

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