Split about having a second kid or not.. first is at almost 3 now.

Any thoughts from folks who grew up without sibling?

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I don't want to be a downer but I think about this often. I have an older sister (big enough difference to where I felt like only child for Mitch of my childhood.) My parents died when I was 18. That's when my sister and I actually got close.

I'm so glad I still have family in her, someone to share stories about them with, and to remember them on important days.

She held my daughter the day she was born when they couldn't, and now she can tell her stories about them that I don't know. Having a sibling means that I still have family to bring to my daughter's life. It also meant that I had family in my life to confront the hardship of losing my parents. You asked about people without siblings, and I feel I've been both.

I'm so glad I have one now.

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Appreciate you sharing this C1.
This is in fact the only reason we still consider of having second..

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I was an only child and wished I had a sibling growing up, especially since we were moving every couple of years because of my father's job. Now I have one son (only 6 months old), but we're definitely looking at having a second one. Not right now, but targeting a 2.5-3 year difference.

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My wife grew up an only child. And we will just have one kid. She never felt alone because her parents were so insistent on her seeing her cousins all the time (who lived in a different state) and play dates with friends. So I think there is a mindset associated with having one kid that requires a lot more outreach.

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That’s the difference between my older and my new born. Go for it! You always need a partner in life

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Don’t have a kid if you don’t want to. Don’t put yourself or a child in a situation where you feel resentment. Only children are perfectly healthy.

My younger brother is three years younger and I wished I had a twin because it wasn’t fun playing sports with him. He couldn’t keep up, I had to baby him, and I felt like a babysitter. We had some rough teenage years where we pushed each other away, but we’re close now and have similar interests and outlooks and enjoy hanging out and collaborating .

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I was an only child and never wanted a sibling. Now I've got a 4yo and a 2yo. There's a lot of meditation to be done between them, but I'm honestly shocked how fronted they are with each other.

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