The duality of people at work has been bothering me. Judging someone you don't like for doing something incorrectly that you would excuse for a friend, for example. Why don't people see how irrational that is? Maybe it is a maturity thing.

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Well, we tend to judge people differently depending on our relationship with them. It's like some people have more credibility and we forgive their mistakes more readily. But in a work atmosphere, sure, it's not a great trait and seems kind of immature. People at work should be judged by their performance, and not your friendship with them.

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Yes, thank you!!

Immaturity. I agreed

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I honestly do think it is a maturity thing OP because I have noticed it as well. Kind of drives me nuts how rules don't seem to apply to everyone. I have honestly just gotten used to it because you can't say anything people get so defensive.

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Yes that's part of what frustrates me about this. People have "blind spots" to this and if you point it out then you're the problem all of a sudden for creating an issue by bringing light to it, smh.

IMHO, immaturity. You're hired to do a job, for which you're paid. You wouldn't do it for free.

If you happen to make friends during your time, that's okay, but be careful about the depth of any "work" friendships.
A little common sense is prudent.

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Well said. Thanks for the validation!

I agree that it is immaturity, maybe even competition.

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We tend to not see the flaws in the people we know and love.

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