There is a clip of Oprah and Gail circulating about not being friends with someone who has even an ounce of jealously towards you. It applies to work too, let me tell you.

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Your work opps are your biggest haters! Black women tend to have many, it’s a shame.

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I've seen that video too, and it really is so true. As soon as I can feel someone's jealous energy towards me I always take a step back from our friendship to protect myself, it took me awhile to learn that but it's made a big difference in my life.

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I saw it and I agree with Oprah, Gail, and YOU😉

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Their conversation reminded me of the crabs in a barrel mentality of some people. If you don’t have friends who want to claim to their respective tops, they won’t want to see you shine.

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Hmm this is deep! I can’t say how many times family members have said they are jealous of me etc and sometimes some don’t say it but you can sense via there energy

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How do you find out if someone has even an *ounce* of jealousy towards you? I feel like some people are pretty good at managing their own jealousy and you wouldnt' necessarily know that that's how they're feeling. Is there a threshold where it becomes toxic? Just curious because sometimes I sense my cowroker being jealous but I don't want to go out and assume anything

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First, I agree 100% with comments above. You can tell by their energy, complements to you are backhanded, and they’ll likely dismiss any conversation where your accolades are in the spotlight.

You are NOT wrong whatsoever!

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Why don’t you try playing chess instead of checkers and understand that you don’t make friends at work?

Thank you!

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