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Female friendships are so bizarre
Indeed!
Everyone liked me a lot ..be it college or outside . Would've loved to talk to me...suddenly it all started spinning around and she became the center.
She goes and talk to people which I have no problem with but everytime she pretends as if the other person reached out to her and she didn't.
People come and bitch about me to her and she has admitted it and told me some instances (to benefit her that I realized later). Benefit her on a way that I will stop talking to that person or won't be as close to the person so ultimately she becomes their good friend.
She hides her chats from me...if I am sitting next to her and she needs to reply to someone she would hide it by like titling the phone.
It I got her phone for any reason she'd get so conscious.
I know that she has made people hate me.
I have ignored it for all this time and never called her on her bullshit.
May be coz I don't want to be chaotic and if I did anything she'd make other people not talk to me at all. She has such strong allies with everyone and I am at a point where I don't want to get into any chaos. Also knowing that she has done that to someone else before.
People outcasted that person and the person had to move places.
I am so sick of this but don't know how to get out of this situation.
My whole life and family is here.
I can't just move and I am sure she'll follow and also how will I make friends at this age?
I feel like living a lie
Any suggestions are welcome
Please be nice while replying. I'd appreciate some genuine and positive comments
I mean don’t you find it odd that all these other people are talking about you behind your back to her? You have to wonder if she’s making it up or those people really aren’t your friends. My guess is that she’s making it up to control you
Chief
It sounds like you’ve made her the main character in your life. Be careful that you don’t wrap your identity up in her. Concerns about her being unfaithful and her tilting her phone away may be a sign that you’re over invested in this friendship and need take some time away from it.
True!
I have invested too much energy in this friendship and kinda lost myself in it.
Also if everyone has bad things to say about you… what does that say about you???
No!
I never said people have bad things to say about me. They may have opinions about me which is normal. Everyone have opinions about others and they don't have to be always negative.
But my friend I am sure is twisting things in a way to make me look bad and initially I was too naive to know what was happening around me.
@VP1: I am pretty sure others are not talking about me. She is making them talk and saying things about me.
She does that with everyone.
She please them to a great extent in front of them but as soon as the person turns her back she would bitch about her to every person.
I always thought she only does it to others and not me.
I am genuinely a nice person. I try to stay away from anyone's personal matters and my problem is that I am social but not "following up on you 5 times a week" kinda social.
I believe in giving space but she does not...she has her ways of getting involved in everyone's personal life which gives her a leeway over others.
I always wonder that what's the need to do all that she does
I mean I understand the need to please people and be good in everyone's eyes but at the cost of your best friend's relationship with others.
Correct leverage is the right word here
I think women are too catty