We had grandma over yesterday to play with our older son for a couple of hours. They were playing a game that allows you to make faces from emoji parts. He pointed to the tear faced emoji and said...

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I’m so sorry. Not much advice, just here to say I get it and am going through the same. I had to shut the door on my crying child the other day just to try and finish a presentation. I’m failing at everything. Just work until 1am and hug my kids as much as they’ll let me. We’re all experiencing different levels of this and our children will come out stronger in ways we haven’t even considered yet.

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Overheard my kid today say on her FaceTime play date “both of my parents are in calls so this is the best I got!”

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Maybe I am a cold hearted person, but don’t let the guilt get you. You are killing yourself to make sure your child(s) have what they need. Solo time and imaginative play alone are not going to emotionally damage anyone. You have to do what you have to do.

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They will be ok. This is just a moment in time.

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I’m so glad to hear this from someone else. Yesterday my daughter was sobbing saying “I just want to be with you” while I was on a call. Killed me. I feel horrible across the board lately

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This is how my parents make me feel. When Grandma probed, he said... when they don’t give me what I want. When she probed again, he said... when they don’t play with me.

Talk about a gut punch. We both work demanding jobs that has us on calls nearly all day every day. We try to manage expectations (we have 3 small children) but of course they want what they want and it’s hard for them to understand.

I’m going down to a reduced schedule for a few weeks to see if that helps. Why does it feel like I’m doing more harm to my child than when I’m at work all day, not seeing him but mornings and evenings? Here I was cherishing those few moments we do have together each day regardless but it’s still not enough. I know I’m not alone in this but damn.

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I feel this. One of my sons now does pretend play where he says, "I'm on a call, don't talk to me, I've got a lot of work to do." Agree with the others - it will be okay. We have to do what we need to right now to provide for our kids. It's only temporary.

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My heart goes out to you that you are feeling this way. I moved my desk down to the kitchen so I can have eyes on both kids. I take my calls there, too. I’m on mute a lot, but it’s better than being in the home office all day. When I have 15 min between meetings, I play. I also check homework. I don’t eat a lot (yet have gained so much?!) I won’t reduce my schedule / hours as I feel 2 ways - I’m the bread winner keeping a roof over our heads and food on the table. Also, at least I’m in the room with them. Way better than not there at all. They swing by for a hug here and there. Lastly, you could try snuggling with them to sleep. Maybe they are feeling like they need more touch. Either way, we are here for you!

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