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As a seriously introverted woman, if she actually liked you, she would have accepted the date.
Did you ask her out in a really inconvenient way or to do something she really doesn’t want to do?
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Thanks D1, no it’s just that I think she’s been interested for a while but I didn’t realize t, and then there were a few missed opportunities, some because of me. I think net net she concluded I should have “put myself out there” sooner. Or something. :) 🤷♂️
No means no. Respect her no.
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We’re getting there :)
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Are you sure she’s interested? She said no, that should be the end of the conversation. Unless she gave an explanation of some kind that gave you a window, you should respect the no. If someone else is the “source,” telling you she’s interested, women can and do change their minds. She could have been interested before and isn’t anymore. Don’t take someone else’s word for it when she’s been clear that’s not the case.
Sometimes woman could be too ladylike that they say no even when they might be a little teeny bit interested and sometimes they haven’t decided yet and they’re not ready to say yes so they say no. Ask her out a second time but this time let her know that you respect her decision if she says no and you will stop pursuing her. Good luck
Sounds like a lot of work
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That it is! But feels like the really big things in life need more work?
Are you both single and available? May be start small with a coffee at after a meeting. If she says no, then I would leave it alone and not try again.
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Yes, thanks D1
Did she tell you why?
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I understood what the reason was. Thank you so much.
Am not introvert.. I dono any women who would turn down a date from the man she likes :) hope this helps..
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That’s exactly it, an “ick”, I think she was puzzled that I looked interested but wasn’t biting…then I shared some songs that might have suggested I liked her all along or to that effect…which was actually by way of a test but backfired maybe and now she thinks I am awkward and emotionally stunted or something! 🤦♂️
How do you know that she is still interested in you? Did you confirm this with someone else that she has directly told this, or what are you basing this off of?
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Apparently it was on “signs”