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Discussing salary today for an Equity Derivatives Trader Assistant role at Analyst level at JP (have been working in another analyst role for 1 year as well as an industrial placement at GS). What is the salary I should be asking for please?
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1-3 years after the kids start coming
The fifth year is a "cusp" year. The passion of newness has worn off, routines set in, both partners start taking the other for granted. She no longer feels the need to cater to your every whim and while you may not have knocked her off that pedestal, you don't dust it as often as you used to. There is probably at least one tyke on the scene by that time who is demanding a lot of attention that once went to the two of you. At this point, take a deep breath, have some sincere conversations, renew your commitments to and love for one another, and try to regain at least some of the magic from the early years. Be realistic and be sympathetic, empathetic and understanding of each others' needs and stressors. Be prepared to do a "deep clean" every five years and keep up with the annual "spring cleaning" and the "daily maintenance" in the meantime. Do that and you'll be celebrating your 50th wedding anniversary in no time.
The years immediately after kids. Our first was born just after our 10th wedding anniversary - the next 18 months were the hardest of our marriage by some distance and took some repairing.
What made it so difficult, if you don't mind my asking? Heading into a similar situation myself ..
1st year likely a few months in during our honeymoon we got into a bad accident my wife broke her arm. I broke my ACL also around that time. So we both had to get surgery and did PT together (joked that it was date night)
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I don't know that's there is really a specific year, per say. My husband and I just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary. The toughest years have been when our communication is WAY off. These are days or months you'll notice more arguing or something like, I told you this yesterday! No, you didn't. I'd remember if you did. These are years where your communication styles are changing. There are lots of reasons for this but in my experience it's who you're around the most. And that generally translates to your job. You're great at communicating with your teammates but not with your spouse. It's nothing to be alarmed about. We all have to go through seasons of changes. It's just that when these communication issues pop up, we need to see a couple counselor asap. Learn how to get back on the same page. If your marriage/relationship is strong at its base, this generally will take around 6 months. Then you're back on track.
So many marital issues could be solved with proper communication and listening.
We’ve been fortunate in that we haven’t had any tumultuous years after being together for 11 years, but I think the most challenging time has been the last 20 months. We had 2 kids in this time span and learning how to manage parenthood while running multiple businesses and maintaining a healthy marriage has been challenging, but like IC1 said, communication and listening has been our saving grace.
About 10 years ago. My wife had a fairly late miscarriage. The year after that was hell.
Definitely the years my daughter was young. My step daughter was turning into a snarky little witch and I had an infant who screamed for the first 6 months of her life. We both came way to close to death in childbirth and I was sick and exhausted for more than a year. My husband was very little help and I was very resentful. If I had the energy I would have divorced him then. I probably should have.