When a senior banker(male) has asked you (female) to go to lunch multiple times with him. What to do? Is it unprofessional to keep saying no? It seems like more than just a friendly lunch.

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If u think it's weird, it's probably weird. Don't tolerate it. Just be assertive. A trick I like is saying no without saying no.

Example:
"Hey want to grab lunch today/tomorrow/next week?"
Me: ahahaha

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If it seems to be more you are fine saying no.

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@ass1 make sure you add in,
“Wait...with you? HAhahahahah!”

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I think it's fine to go if you make sure it's professional. Otherwise you can always bring another coworker

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I would go to lunch at a casual place. Who knows, maybe he wants to talk about team dynamics or help mentor you for long term growth.

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Yea again, why does it seem like more

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Why do you think it's unprofessional

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