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You gotta pull yourself up and stop the pity party. Life is fair in that it is unfair to all.

I used to ask myself this all the time. Then I decided to stop being the victim, and take control of my emotions and reactions to my life. I definitely can’t control circumstances and events surrounding me, my reactions can however be controlled.

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I just wish someone told me I had control over my life earlier and knocked some sense into me.
If you’re depressed or experiencing any mental health issues please seek professional help ASAP.

They do, but you have to keep going anyway. The best advice I ever heard was from a Charlie Munger speech where he said the three most destructive things are envy, resentment, and self-pity, and self-pity in particular will destroy your life. His own example was watching his 10yo son die of cancer, he wanted to fall into a hole and never come out after that, but it doesn't matter what happened, you have this life and you have to live it in the best way possible no matter what the circumstances.

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