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You don’t want to get blamed if the one you want doesn’t work out. When ‘shit goes down’ you’re going to get blamed for stuff anyway so don’t add to it. Make your one argument and let it go.
Go with whoever your wife is most comfortable with and keep any opinions otherwise to yourself. Yes a good doula will be great for you as dad too, but ultimately the doula is there for your wife
One more thing - like with nannies, don't suggest the hot one. Let your wife do that after you've discussed reasons that don't include hotness. She's probably best suited to decide who she wants to be there with her. Firstly, your pregnant wife is insecure about her looks and weight gain the way it is. Suggesting the hot one will cement that insecurity in her mind and make your life miserable. Secondly because this is about her, and you'll just be happy she's got someone to walk her through the birth process so you don't need to try and bs your way through it - your wife will thank you.
Also make sure that the Doula can work well with your OBGYN.
If planning a hospital birth, make sure your doula has experience with the staff at that hospital. Our doula knew everyone well, and was able to find things for us in other parts of the hospital that even the L&D staff couldn't find.
Start with asking your wife what’s most important to her about the role of a Doula and what she’s seeking to gain. Place your priorities behind them as secondaries. Yours are important but still the supporting actor. Discuss/compare doulas based on those pre-established priorities and your evaluation of each doula’s ability to fulfill them. Experience in hospital is huge, credibility/reputation with dr/midwife is in my opinion most influential. Kinda pissed we only used a doula on the 3rd baby. Probably would have avoided C-section with baby2 had we known what the hell a doula is the first two rounds
Ask about experience. I needed an emergency knee surgery and the first doc I talked to said he did it only 3 to 5 times a year... I asked for the name of the doctor he'd go to. Amazing how someone who specializes and does the surgery multiple times a week has better outcomes....
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All about the wife’s comfort. Doula is a support role for her