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Why didn’t you just respond, “I am on a deadline right now so do not have time to substantively address this, but I will reply,” or let you know if the question was not raised in an email, “tomorrow/at end of day,” depending on your timeframe. Being responsive is important and it takes two seconds to acknowledge you were asked a question. With people like this, don’t get toxic with them, just model the behavior you would like them to exhibit which is to be professional. At my firm, if someone asked me something 4x and I ignored it, they too would be upset unless I was in a deposition or had my OOO on, or something like that.

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