All my friends say my standards for dating are too high (granted I've been single for 1.5 years and unhappy), but am I being elitist by never lowering them? I don't want to

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First off, congrats on not online dating. I was going to blame that as the culprit right away.

As for "lowering standards" I think there are two distinct categories that get lumped together: red flags and preferences. Don't lower your standards for a cheater, no financial sense, abusive, doesn't want kids (and you do), etc. Those red flags will always come back to haunt you.

Consider lowering standards if they're superficial preferences...not every guy can look like a model, drive a Ferrari, be 6'4", and cook a gourmet meal. But if he makes you happy and treats you right then in the end those other things don't matter.

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Same situation here. I don't know how one just chooses to lower ones standards. It is what it is

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Even though I'm currently single, here's my 2 cents - the best relationships I have been in pretty much just came to me. Searching for a relationship never works as well as what's right

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Don't lower them. Every time I compromised, the compromise came back to haunt me after the honeymoon period and I couldnt help but be the person nagging constantly

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Nothing wrong. Just got to wait it out.

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I would also suggest that you consider dating people you know are not going to be "the one." Shorter relationships can be really fun, and you can come away with no regrets if you have a clean and mature break-up. I do regret passing up some opportunities I had.

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Female, only in person, I kinda want it to be a blind date or spontaneous type of situation.

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I met my current GF and ex-GF from online dating, so it's a legitimate way to meet people you otherwise would not

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M/F, what are your standards, and how are you trying to date (online, etc.)?

I second ATK in a sense. Don't lower your standards, but you may want to open some of your filters. Example: I used to not be into girls with tattoos, but I dated one and she turned out to be more interesting than the typical cookie-cutter yuppie.

Fair point DD1, I wasn't saying online dating can't work, but for a lot of people it's more of a crutch.

Standards always disappear when you meet the right person. Don't sweat it, and don't compromise

I trust your friends more than you or me.

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