Anyone experience home buyers remorse / depression? Apparently it’s a thing especially after buying your first home, and I’ve been feeling it big time.

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Nope. 3.5% interest rate and 40% appreciation over the past three years. I can easily imagine how this can be a thing tho as I’m looking into more expensive homes with current interest rates. 😣

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Yes change is scary. You made this decision for the right reasons. Check back in six months when emotions have subsided

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My one piece of advice—if you have the money or an appetite for doing handy stuff yourself, don’t put off making improvements. My first place was a 100 year old townhouse. There were some semi-big improvements we did later on before selling (remodeled a bathroom, HVAC upgrades, etc.) that I’d procrastinated on for years because I didn’t want to put money into an old house I wouldn’t live in forever. But when we were moving I really regretted not making those upgrades earlier so we could have actually enjoyed them rather than just making the house look more marketable haha

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buyer's remorse? Are you house poor?

Why is it making you feel that way?

It also has more affordable daycare than the city we were renting in. And lots of reasons - not always easy to buy in these towns, making friends earlier, great town for little kiddos, building home equity over renting in the city, etc. And doesn’t really make sense to move elsewhere if we know we’d have to make this move again in a few years anyway.

Being a first time homeowner brings along a lot of uncertainty. With that uncertainty comes stress.

Who’s going to take care of the yard?
who’s going to fix something if it breaks?
who do I call if I need help now that I can’t just call a landlord/management company?

It seems overwhelming at first but you will learn with each experience, and realize the most things are not a big deal. Like everything, eventually you will adjust.

Not remorse, but definitely tired of all the repairs that needed to happen. From plumbing to AC to termites. It’s a lot to take on all at once especially as a first time homebuyer.

I told my wife we can’t look at Zillow new listings for a few months after we were past due diligence lol. We uninstalled the app.

Love the house we got and we’re happy with it. But honestly there’s things to be annoyed about or hate with any house.

Just remember, the house you’re living in someone else’s dream home. Some people spend years to even be able to buy a house, let alone one they love.

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