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I got a call from HR and offer discussion was over couple of weeks back and still waiting for them to send me final mail to release offer. May I know if they take this much time to release offer, when I did a follow up call after 10 days they said they are waiting for some approval to release offer.
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A good first principle is that dad newborn support should revolve around sleep, specifically maximizing sleep for the mom. Pregnancy is hard, delivery is hard, nursing is hard. She's caring for the kid but you're caring for both.
Using pumping so you can take multiple overnight coverage shifts per week and let mom get more than 4 consecutive hours at night (or nap in the afternoon) is a plan that worked well for us in the early weeks.
I'd also say don't overplan: there's a lot of ifs. IF the baby nurses well, IF your wife finds pumping tolerable, IF she produces enough to pump during the day, IF her production lets her skip an overfeed feed for sleep, and IF the baby will take a bottle easily then you can execute a great pumping strategy.
Alternatively, maybe nursing is a breeze but pumping is a pain so you keep the pump on the shelf and you find other ways to help.
Or maybe the baby will take a bottle but doesn't latch well, and/or your wife has trouble producing and/or gets recurring mastitis and/or becomes totally overwhelmed. Suddenly the best strategy for you is going formula-only 6 weeks in and that is totally fine.
Having an overly idealized vision of how you want to go about it can be the enemy of finding the routine that is most manageable for what you actually encounter. Don't be disappointed if a system planned with care give way to slapped together routines, and be willing to adapt.
Bain did really nail it.
Only thing I’d add is that depending on the pump there may be a lot of parts to clean, dry, store and prep for the next pumping session. That’s an area you can definitely support (and I highly recommend getting spare sets of those parts to always have some clean and ready to go)
Regarding your question on the Limerick pump that EY provides - AVOID it at all costs! Just invest in a good, industry leading/standard pump like Medela. We used the Limerick one provided by EY without really researching it, and my wife had an extremely hard time getting enough output. She felt it was really uncomfortable to use as well. We sought advice from a lactation consultant, and the first thing she said was to toss out the Limerick one and get a Medela. It worked wonders! Milk productivity increased significantly without any other changes, and my wife said it felt so much better compared to Limerick. Again, this was just our experience, and I’m not sure if other people fared better with Limerick. But as our lactation consultant said, Medela is the go-to pump for almost all new mothers, and there’s probably a good reason why. All the best!
My wife said Limerick pump sucks - I’ll let you know what she recommended!
1) Go off what your pediatrician recommends
2) Read up on tips from Taking Cara Babies
3) Download the Huckleberry App and pay the $55 for yearly access (or try it out first). It’ll automatically help calculate next feedings, etc. You can also program it to match your preferences. Massively takes the anxiety out of calculating when to feed, etc. Also tracks sleep and wake windows too.
My wife exclusively breastfeed for the first week or two to try to get her supply going. Then we moved to a bottle during at least one of the late night feedings so she could sleep/rest. The balance is your baby not having nipple confusion or waiting too long to bottle and them not liking it at all. Once your baby gets back to birth weight you can start stretching feedings apart and skipping the night ones.
Eventually you can take over the bottle feeding early morning or before bedtime, and the dreamfeed when you get there.
Also try to find a local lactation consultant. It may be covered under insurance too. Lifesaver so many times.