🚩Biggest red flags you ignore at the beginning of a relationship when you really like someone?

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Lies, deceit, being condescending are some signs which can be picked right away.

Not introducing each other as partners but as "friends" is another.

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Being an anarchist.

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Inconsistent/incongruent behavior (says one thing/does something else - we normally tell ourselves this a one time issue, but it’s not), lack of communication (believes people will read their mind - you tell yourself that this person is “introvert”, not they’re not - they’re immature), lack of initiative/leadership (comes normally as “I’m a go with the flow person - no you want people to decide everything for you - long term it’s a child you will have to take care of it), also lack of understanding on how to deal with conflict (comes of as “I’m a peaceful person and don’t like conflict - no, you can’t handle pressure. You hide from tough situations and push things under the rug. Long term is someone you have to tip toe around to make have meaningful discussion so they don’t run away. )

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Pay attention to their actions, not just their words.

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If the other person never offers to pay.

See all you care about is money. WHO’s paying what. Pay for yourself you are an adult not a child.

Instagram set to public with 10,000 followers

Sounds like an only fans accoun.

If they are still talking to their ex partners or have too many male friends.

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