🤔 Do you feel comfortable saying no or setting boundaries at work, or does that feel like something you can't or shouldn't do?

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Yes, and you should consider your boundaries as early as the interview process. Ie. Asking what the expectation is outside of regular business hours (9-5). If you are salaried and are interviewing for a job where the expectation is 24/7 and you do not want that, don’t pretend that it’s ok and not be ok after you start. Either address what your boundary is or decline moving further. Same for travel. Same for work culture. As for how you want to work with others, and how you expect to be treated, it’s all in how you address the boundary. Using the word “no” doesn’t usually work in business. But describing a scenario that works for you that you describe in a positive light will be a much better tactic.

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Yes, but it took time for me to be comfortable doing so. I will tell you what changed my perspective on this - being laid off.

My last company I never said no. I traveled, logged in after hours, Teams and email on my phone when it wasn't necessary. Then one day I was part of a mass reduction in workforce.

Realizing a company just sees you as an employee was eye opening for me. Now in my next role, I have set those work-life balance boundaries for myself. The anxiety of saying no has slowly gone away but I know that I am still a hard-worker and good employee. I am just allowed to have a life and separate work!

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If you don't say no, the job will take over your life.

In my opinion it depends on the context, if it’s not professional then the boundary is a lot easier to set, and I work with a professional mindset anyway personally so I think boundaries are definitely very very important and there for a reason, but yet again, depends on the context

I am better at it now, but I used to struggle. I think saying yes to everything just leads to burnout. Boundaries feel uncomfortable at first, but they matter.

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