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In order for me to meet in person I need to verify your LinkedIn lol
Yeah, I get titles can be impressive but I'd rather find a woman because I'm a funny, cool guy than because I'm "headmaster consultant partner 3000 @ super important company"
Depends on a few things but I wouldn’t say it’s weird .
I get that, but if you met someone at a bar, you wouldn’t have identified any common interests prior to speaking though, right? To me it just feels awkward to have talked so much before meeting in person. Would rather just cover all the basics on a first date. Understand everyone is different, just my opinion.
No, not weird. If we chat for more than 2 days without a guy asking, I lose interest.
Same!
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i prefer to understand a person's background (eucation, type of job, goals) and then directly to meet. the rest depends on real-life connection.
in worst escenario they might be an interesting person.
pen palling is a loss of time, in my opinion
Why would it be? If you are on an app with the hope of finding someone to date/marry/whatever, I think after 2 or 3 messages, if there is interest on both sides, that a short public meeting for coffee or ice cream or something would be appropriate. Why hold off for days or weeks? Meet the person and see if you actually click off of the internet. I would rather find out sooner than later and not invest my time and energy into something without knowing if it was a feasible and workable attraction.
Seems pretty common. I prefer to get to know people a bit first, but most guys are very keen to do that in person.
I understand both sides! As a woman I typically prefer the guy to ask, but sometimes I just feel like these conversations drag on for way too long. But I also wouldn’t want to be hounded to meet up the second we match either.
Would you rather stay pen pals? Perhaps that is more comfortable for you?
Nope! The opposite actually.
As a man I have, I do think it's better to do a video call and chat for 5-10 minutes so it's easier to know if you can have a conversation in person plus real time feedback on the person
Just be safe about it , there some weird people out here ,
And watch out for the Narcissists they love dating apps
Not weird. I think that's originally what the apps were designed for. I met my husband online in 2010, and my MO was to chat a couple of times, then meet up. You cannot tell if you have chemistry until you meet in person. No point having a pen pal, unless that's your thing.
Here's a thought or maybe I'm speaking for my self. I have the attention span of a three year old, and you want to keep chatting on an app, alpha's make the best of their time doing, so app time is short and you want to keep chatting on the app your really asking me to respond to all the other women. If you don't have the bottom end to meet for an ice tea you don't have a name. But I do understand the safety factor don't be a victim get a ccw. Big kiss 💋 D
Read your post and your answer is actually there. lol you’re complaining about the same thing you’re asking advice on. You’re having pointless connections that are not leading to in person meet ups but then questioning when someone asks you to meet in person after a few messages… lol