Does anyone have any positive stories of starting married life struggling but finding happiness later on? I’m married 15 months, love my husband, but we are truly struggling to adjust our lives. I just want to see some hope at the end of the tunnel =\

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I think all marriages go through rocky periods, especially when you're adjusting to change. Ours didn't start rough, but it got there when we had our first child. The stress wore us both down and had us at each other's throats for a few months. We were able to work through it, though, and I'm guessing you both can too. The best thing you can do is communicate. Be open and honest about your feelings, and don't let whatever is going on now turn into lingering resentment. Get it out there and work as a team to push through it. What in particular are you two struggling with?

Well.. how you will know it’s end of tunnel? Nobody knows right. That’s how it is. No one is happy and satisfied imo. So keep on hustling, don’t expect anything or much from anyone. Live your life in the way you want by not hurting anyone. That’s what I follow though.

I'm sorry this is going on! My husband and I went through a rough patch for the 6 months after we were married (despite living together several years before) but it was due to serious hormonal issues I was going through and us learning how to argue as a married couple. For some reason, marriage changed our dynamic in that we both showed our worst sides a bit more freely, but once we got through that first rough patch, we evened out (I got help with my hormonal issues) and our marriage has been much more solid. So I think it's just realizing that you chose each other and you're going to continue to choose each other (take the idea of divorce completely out of your mind).

It might help if you give a bit more context of your struggles. Financial? Physical? Etc

Unless the problem pits you against your partner, the problem is one you share. This presents an opportunity to build your relationship, not break it down. JFK once said the Chinese word for "crisis" is made of two words meaning "danger" and "opportunity." The last word is actually more accurately interpreted as "changing point." In short, a cross-roads -- a point where a decision has to be made. Think of Robert Frost's "Two roads diverged in a yellow wood" as an example. You and your partner started your life together on one path. Times are tough and you come upon a crossroads. Do you confer and make a decision to take one road and endure the good or bad that it might hold, or do you decide to separate in hopes that you chose the better option? Ask yourself if you would be happier alone in good times or together to handle the bad times? Then choose your path. What would I do? "I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference." My wife and I just celebrated our 40th anniversary, going through financial and relationship struggles along the way but emerging from the fire and smoke still as much in love as we ever were. We are facing other struggles ahead -- cancer -- but neither of us will go down that path alone.

15 months and honeymoon period is over?. Have a kid. Honeymoon period starts all over again and stay for 18 years

Married for 34 years. Absolutely went through some very rough times, but now it’s better than ever. We’re empty nesters now and have been having so much fun with no kids around. Also, all our kids are doing well, have good jobs/ houses, girlfriends, and they’re connected to each other despite where they live, travel together, etc. so we have no immediate worries there yet-
Honestly, at one point I wanted a divorce. Looked for apartments and all. Decided I’d leave after youngest was in college bc I didn’t want to ‘waste’ money on a second dwelling. By then we had been doing much better. I’m so happy we hung on. lol

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