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Enthusiast
Perhaps she thought they needed the help and you didn’t? That’s odd based on your description
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This is the perspective. I've seen it too many times...it sucks, but this is often their thought process.
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This happened to me. I had an aunt that I idolized and thought she did me too. I did everything for her. When I was away, I'd call everyday. When I was home, every Sunday was spent with her. Taking her shopping or dinner. I always believed we were close.
When she passed away, I didn't even get an honorable mention. Everyone else got $30,000. It's been 10 years and still hurts.
I'm sorry OP, I have no advice except don't let it consume you.
Enthusiast
I’m so sorry that happened to you PWC1!
That's tough and I can understand the frustration. I guess in the end, material possessions will come and go, but the memories and experiences you had with your aunt will last a lifetime. It's normal to second guess it all, but I think you'll be happier to look back on your moments with her in a positive light.
You every right to feel what you’re experiencing.
Rising Star
Sometimes people are irrational, and you get screwed. I get it that it’s more about how it hurts that she would do that and wonder what she thought of you
If it makes you feel any better and that it could be worse, read this story on Reddit about this guy who helped this woman through getting out of an abusive relationship, they got married and he raised the kids as if they were his own. Over 15 years later, the kids are already off to college and his wife serves him divorce papers and it turns out she’s been seeing her ex and is in love with him and he’s changed and all that. They get divorced and he has to give her half including the house. Now, I can’t guarantee that story is true, but at least it didn’t happen to you
Is it possible she didn’t update her will? Or even have one? Maybe the law distributed her inheritance and it wasn’t her decision. Many people put this off thinking they’ll get to it one day, but unfortunately that doesn’t always happen.
This is what I was thinking. I am actually in the midst of an inheritance/probate situation with my aunt. The will was written about 25 years ago. I think it was just not updated for OP. It’s a tough situation :(
Rising Star
Is there anyone else in your family who may be able to shed some light on why your aunt did what she did? It must be really upsetting but as others have posted, she may not have updated her will. But please don't let this spoil your memories - the time with your aunt was special and you have all those memories that your cousins will never have. At the end of the day, you can feel happy and proud of what you did and how you acted - the jewelry is just 'stuff' that you can't take with you anyway.
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I’m sorry to hear that. Is there a reason why she left it to the two vs you?
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I wish I knew. No idea. I never even asked what she left behind for a whole year. Just heard randomly from my mom that those two cousins will be visiting and I asked why, since they have been MIA for ten+ years and she said, oh they have to take custody of all the jewelry left by your aunt.
I’m really sorry for your loss. I was very close with an aunt who also did not have children. Her estate was a huge mess and my uncle’s family hired attorneys to battle my family. It was ugly and the source of a lot of drama and pain.
I share all this because I had similar feelings and saw them rise up in others. What people do or don’t leave you is not a reflection of their love for you. We want to make that interpretation up, but it’s simply untrue.
Treasure your memories. They are more valuable than her assets.
Pro
Sounds like she might have done it because she knows you can take care of yourself and the other two can’t. It’s still not a great move on her part, but try to think of it as a vote of confidence for you.