Doing the best I can in not great circumstances because we're understaffed. I have a female manager and we used to really get along, but as soon as I kind of got my feet under me she started acting colder and colder toward me. Did I do something wrong? I've expressed how much I appreciated her support but she didn't really respond at all.

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I smell crab mentality brewing. Talk it out with her if there's anything she thinks you should address. If it keeps going even after the talk then I suggest just focusing on yourself.

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Sensing there might be some form of jealousy going on, and passive aggression is the worst element to deal with in the workspace. Maybe she feels like you have the intangibles to get ahead.

People are always going to gravitate to the personalities they enjoy even if you're less qualified than someone else. So I figure that's what's probably happening. She might sense you're more of an office favorite.

No one here can tell you with what is going on. Break the mean girl/passive aggressive cycle and actually TALK to her. Ask her. Have a conversation. The “jealous female manager” story perpetuates a mistrust between women that is absolutely unnecessary.

Absolutely! I was referring to the comments

I wouldn't worry about whether or not you did something wrong. Sometimes people really just are like that. I always just stay focused on my job.

Everyone on here is right, she must be jealous. I won't even give her the time of day if that's the case. She saw you doing better and there she goes giving you the cold shoulder.

The green little monster is maybe peeking just a tad bit too much with her. Maybe she found it cute at first when she was helping you get along, but when you already found yourself so to speak that she now feels deprived of control. This is just my speculation.

Sounds like she is threatened by you/jealous. Don't take it personally and please don't let it affect your performance. Be professional and keep being the bigger person.

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