Normalize managers prefacing requests to speak with “You’re not fired, but can I talk to you?”

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There’s a whole lot more going on here than how someone requests to chat. While I sometimes dread when my manager wants a quick chat, it’s never because I think I might be on the chopping block; it’s because they probably just came up with a “great idea”.

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That would not help my anxiety. I would just be wondering exactly how close I had come to being fired.

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Why can't people just talk like normal human beings. "Hey, got a second? Want to catch up with you on something.".

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My manager always says stuff like “can we talk about x”

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I mean…if you’re thinking that you’re probably not doing a good job (ae is easiest job in the world to objectively evaluate) and you know it or the company culture is way out of whack and you should leave 🤷‍♂️

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This would cure so much anxiety LOL I hate the “can you chat” IMs

Why not just say "can I talk to you?"

I always say “good thing” in chat/IM when asking for time. Most of the time it is a good thing

If you're not sure and comfortable with what you're doing, you should leave.

Oh I would love that, I get super anxious every time I see "can I talk to you" or "can we have a quick catch up"

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