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EY, I got my Roth IRA contributions set to max (30%). Does Fidelity automatically lower the % and stop contributions afterwards once I reach my 2022 limit?
Also at Deloitte, I had a couple thousand contributed in the beginning of the year. Does EY's 401k keep track of that as well towards the limit?
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I would highly recommend therapy. I’ve been in similar positions where life can be a lot and therapy really helps you channel your thoughts in the right direction. They should be able to help you isolate what’s causing the doubt in your relationship and decide if it is a true dealbreaker or not.
24 and broke up with my bf of 5 years, 6 months ago- have never been happier :) you’ll be okay no matter what you decide (being unsure is usually an answer itself) - therapy has also helped me
I once was in the exact same position - stuck at a dead-end job; the bf (now ex) was my soulmate, we just matched on every aspect, but the relationship was heading nowhere and I couldn’t keep doing it. I decided to make the change: I got admitted to a master degree, broke-up with the bf, and worked extra hard, kept myself busy (well I needed the money for my grad-school and travel anyway so that worked out), made new friends, tried new things…
Was it hard? Absolutely!
Did I question myself wth I was doing? Plenty
But if you don’t do it you’ll never know. What you know now is that you’re not happy.
I chose to spend the money on school and travel instead of therapy but if you can afford it then why not. Try it out!
Don’t listen to the comment above, clearly breaking up with your bf is the only sensible solution here
I feel the same way — but in regards to being unhappy with my job and constantly questioning my friendships.
I am sure if is a theme amongst our peer group. 😭
25, single, got rid of most of my old friends and started new. Therapy helps, but also find activities you like doing alone and get a pet. For work… no idea. Same boat.
Weighing in as an old here... first of all, I am sorry you are feeling this way. It is so tough to have all of these feelings at one time with everything going on at once. Secondly, please be easy with yourself. Take a deep breath and focus on today and what is good today. From the other side of 40 and two fiances I can tell you there is lots of life to live ahead of you and, as trite as it sounds, "this too shall pass." Therapy can be a great tool, as others have suggested, as can meditation, finding something new to focus on/new passions, and just giving yourself some space to live through this time.
About a year ago I was in a similar position—I saw no future at my job at the time, my health was declining, and I felt like I had no real friends.
All I can say is you’re not alone, it’s part of growing up! You’ve got this. Therapy was helpful for me, and I spent a few months job searching. Once I had an offer, I quit my job and took some time off for myself before my start date. The time off made a HUGE difference for me—I finally felt like myself again—but I know that’s a huge luxury and blessing that isn’t an option for everyone.
I don’t know if that helps, but I wish you all the best!
I have been/am in the same exact situation (also 25F). Therapy has definitely helped, and I would also suggest talking to your boyfriend about how you feel. I really underestimated how much my boyfriend would be able to support me through this weird transition period of life. I was nervous about sharing my doubts in our relationship and other stressors but being open with him has let me feel significantly less alone/in my own head. I knew that if he reacted poorly then it would be time to move on, but I do think it's worth a conversation. As for friendships, I'm definitely still figuring that out, but I would say that this is a rare time in life when you really should be selfish. I would try to think about the ppl that leave you feeling excited/happy/safe vs the ones that may be draining. You're not alone and everything truly is temporary.
Break up with your boyfriend. Try to do your best at your current job and keep an eye on job postings. Eventually you will find a better job and have less stress.
What group are you in at Deloitte? I can see if we have something similar. I’m ex-Deloitte myself
I think you might find a role in PEPI that you’d be interested in - have a look and let me know if there’s anything I can do! Happy to connect you with recruiters etc
If you’re unsure about your partner after 4 years, BREAK UP. Life is too short and there’s always other options. For work, figure it what you want to try next and go for it - you’ve got 1 or 2 hard pivots before you have to pick a lane- use them wisely!
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You’re not alone I am in a similar boat. Got to take a moment every once and a while and realize what is important to you.
Thanks everyone for sharing and the advices!
I understand how hard it is for you…
So sorry to hear you’re going through this
Just went though a breakup of a long term relationship and kinda comforting to see all the girls in the same boat ♥️ therapy + church girl, it’ll transform your life!
I'm also a 25-year-old consultant. I feel similarly stuck and haven't worked it out. I just want you to know that you are not the only one. Sometimes, it's okay to not feel okay.
How about being engaged? Right now I’m engaged, 9 months away from a wedding (age 24) … but really feeling stuck in my future, both with my fiancé and work.
Part of me thinks work chaos and stress is what’s causing uncertainty with my fiancé…or is it the other way around?
Any similar experience?
At our age, things are changing so fast and everyone is at a different stage. It can sometimes make us feel unstable. I’d talk to a therapist
Same position here girl. As others are saying, you’re not alone. I agree with the above suggestion to talk with your partner. I’ve basically told my on and off again partner of 5 years where I’m at and why and he’s super supportive about it. In some ways this makes it harder because he’s so great and understanding and talks through things with me and helps me try and understand the root of my feelings and why. I know he truly wants the best for me and understands if we ultimately decide to part ways finally. Is it really your partner that is the problem or something you need to do for yourself? For me, it’s that I want to chase some goals and not always sure how my partner fits into this as we are both ambitious and a little selfish. If you met your current partner today would you date them? Try and see them through others eyes. How do other people view your partner? These questions have helped me
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