Currently going through divorce proceedings. I honestly don't want to date anyone right now but I have this fear that I'm already 28 and I'll never meet anyone good. I went on some apps and matched with some guys but I feel like they're all the same and I don't wana get to know anyone. But I'm also scared for my future.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My older sister called off her engagement after being with the guy for 10 years and she’s 30. About 80% of the women in my family (blood-related) had miscarriages after trying at 32, which worries all my sisters and me so we all had pretty similar timelines (wishfully thinking) in terms of marriage and trying for children. All that to say, if my older sister can do it, you definitely can! I’m going through a break up as well and I’m only a tad bit younger than you are. I think it’s scarier right now with COVID and it putting emphasis that tomorrow is never promised. But just trust that the universe/God/whatever you believe in only has good intentions for you and the right person will be at your doorstep when the time is right.

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Take some time to focus on yourself. It sounds like you might not be ready to start dating. Don’t rush into app dating and panic date because you think you’re behind. If you take the time to take care of yourself and find happiness by yourself and for yourself, the dating process will be easier and better. You don’t want someone to fill a hole in your life. You want someone who’s additive.

Take a year or so to get back emotionally & mentally. It doesn’t feel like it to you right now, but 28 is still young and you have a few years before you need to start worrying.

(Someone who is not 28)

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