First time soon to be a dad here. Is it abnormal that I don’t want to have sex with my pregnant wife?

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Nope, not abnormal and in fact there is a psychological basis to it. Not all men feel this way (I know I didn’t) but it gets interesting when her libido increases during pregnancy and yours decreases. Try some different positions - I know I did feel like me on top was gonna squish the baby (which it won’t but it can feel that way. She needs to know you still find her desirable.

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Give her what she wants

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We had the best sex when my wife was pregnant, esp when libido increases in later stages of pregnancy

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Yes to all answers totally normal, try new positions, give her what she wants. Trust me it’s better for all parties if you do. Laying on side works well for us and start gentle and you will see it’s fine. Also baby is totally fine don’t worry about that. Will make here feel better physically and emotionally. And even if it weirds you out a bit it is good because of all the shit she has to deal with it it gives you something to deal with too. Be a team player !

Sex is not my problem. The second after I am done I want them as far away as possible.

It took us probably 6-7 months after our first kid. After our second kid, we were right back at it after 6 weeks (the minimum amount of time)

And now I realize you asked about pregnant wife. I actually enjoyed it a lot... but I wouldn’t think it’s weird. The increased libido in her end made things more... creative sometimes.

Remember 6 + 6 rule. No sex after 6th month and u until 6 months after baby is born. Second is very important as female body is fertile after birth and can pickup your boys real fast. And most of us went through problem you facing.

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