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We did due to his social emotional at his age. He is extremely smart but his social emotional development was a bit behind. He was on the borderline age to start. We decided to wait a year and I have no regrets.
It really depends on your reasoning.
Idk he is 12, it was so long ago. I think he just didn’t emotionally behave like others his age. He was just slow on maturing. It was like he behaved more like a toddler and just didn’t react to things on the emotional level as his peers. They even went as far as possible aspergers. But in the end, he is 12 and has grown so much and there are no more worries. Kids just grow at different rates so you have to assess and make the decision that would benefit your child the most.
Why are you keeping her behind? For me, the reasoning is what would cause me to lean one way vs another
Honestly I didn’t with my son and wish I had. He had communication issues too.. and later we learned he has adhd so a year behind would have really helped him with his social game . I was sorry i didn’t do it.
I also wished I had done a private testing earlier as when school tested him they said he was fine .. but after a few years of still struggling (teachers said he as misbehaving and not listening) it turned out he has adhd. Once we knew the school was all about helping him .. prior they just kept calling him a bad kid and his self esteem really suffered and he hated school
In a similar boat - planning to send my fall birthday son to kindergarten at a private school this year, then assess whether he’ll progress to 1st or repeat K in public school next year - due to social emotional development for boys in particular
Thank you all for your helpful advice. I’ll likely send her to a private kindergarten and then repeat in public kindergarten or something along the lines if it seems she needs more support.
One example of inappropriate behavior and lack of understanding of the situation yesterday was that she came over and spat on her baby brother’s plate while he was eating dinner. She herself refused to eat—turns out she had cake at school for a birthday party and was full—but she didn’t express that. When we asked why she spat on the plate, she couldn’t say why so she got in mad trouble. We found out by probing that a friend at school spat during lunch—teacher said it was by accident and he cleaned up his spittle—and my daughter has a habit of copying other kids’ inappropriate behavior and getting in trouble for it. So she said she did it.
I tried to explain that people don’t feel good when you spit on them when they’re eating but she couldn’t understand. When her dad got mad because she didn’t eat dinner, we told her he was mad because she didn’t eat dinner because she needs to eat to grow big and strong, she understood up to “daddy’s mad because I didn’t eat” but didn’t understand that it’s because we want her to grow big and strong.
Her peers seem to understand this type of logical processing but she has trouble with it. She might have some listening processing trouble too.
This seems normal. Kids will copy and it’s a good learning and teaching moment. Even if you have to repeat yourself I don’t think you can expect 3/4 year olds to know all the social graces at that age. They have to be taught it.
My 4 year old hit me yesterday bc it was time to clean up from playing a game and she was mad. And I get it- kids are learning how to express themselves and where it makes sense. But I used it as an opportunity to tell her I didn’t like being hit and I know she’s frustrated and use words instead and we worked on how to apologize.
Long way of saying, it takes time and practice and that’s ok.