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I am Offered 29.5fixed by PwC for SA (L2). Currently on 25fixed. Should I join ? In terms of WLB.! My current employer on fishbowl shows Deloitte but have left Deloitte a year back. Currently in a firm with good WLB but PWFH is a big win for me that PwC is offering.
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I haven’t “made it” that far or high up yet, but can relate to the symptoms you’ve described. After years of therapy I recognized my patterns as burnout. And not just working too hard but due to some misalignment of values and what I wanted in life vs what society want us to want. A friend today talked about similar experiences and her therapist said to her that “most people are now having ‘normal’ responses to ‘abnormal’ circumstances in life” so this is to say that you’re not alone. Throughout life we’ve been taught and brainwashed what success looks like (salary, title, materialism, social status etc) but never around what we truly want for ourselves. I was in tech for a decade and felt proud of the lifestyle I had but my mental health did not improve with quality of life. Anyhow now I host mental wellness retreats for what I would’ve wanted during my depressive episodes, hoping to offer a healing experience to those who are going through similar things. Feel free to dm me if you want a listening ear. Again you’re not alone!
I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm also approaching a big birthday soon and have been dealing with a lot myself. I recently was laid off from a really toxic job that left me completely burnt out for the first time in my career. It was tough; I felt depressed, lost my confidence, and struggled with impostor syndrome.
Realizing I needed help was a big step for me. I've started therapy and began taking antidepressants. It's only been a couple of weeks, and the meds haven't fully kicked in yet, but I already feel a bit of relief. Talking to someone who can help me navigate my feelings has been incredibly helpful. While my husband is a great support, I realized I needed more than he could provide.
Reaching out for help, which was really hard for me to do, has made a significant difference. If you're going through something similar, I encourage you to seek help too. It might feel daunting, but even a small step can make a big impact. You're not alone in this, and it's okay to need more support than your loved ones can give. Things will get better with time and the right support. Stay strong, and remember that this is just a phase. Better days are ahead.
Thank you all - reading your thoughtful replies instantly made me feel better. I just started therapy yesterday (finally found a therapist who is a good fit) and am talking to my doctor about options to combat symptoms of perimenopause. I’ve been on a low dose pill but it’s not doing much. Any insight into what’s working for you would be a tremendous help. Thank you all again 🙌🏼.
I had exactly same symptoms at work and thought it was a burn out. Few months later I realized it was starting perimenopose! However, issues with work were there as well, they just got aggravated. I decided to start hormones therapy a year after my periods are gone and it too 2 years since my first symptoms started. What helped in this time period? I tried many things incl moderate exercises. Not sure what worked but I also tried a small dosage of CBD oil (organic) before bed time. It seems improved sleep quality tremendously. As for hormones intake: research other way of getting them but pills, they are safer.
Alone in my work, I should add. I didn’t used to be like this - I was driven, collaborative and genuinely cared for the work. Now I struggle to get through projects, project my self-loathing onto others and feel like the biggest fake out there. While technically I’ve ‘made it’ as an senior leader in my specialty, I feel like a failure. Anyone else dealing with this?
Not sure your age. But talk to a doctor you trust about hrt and perimenopause. This video might hit some of what you’re experiencing… https://www.instagram.com/reel/Czi-u2DuMDN/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
You are not alone. Therapy will definitely help, and it also sounds like you need some time for yourself. But also don’t forget that to all those fresh young talent - you are someone who is respected and revered. Remember yourself starting out - how did you look at the senior leadership? Especially women. Every once in a while when I’m having one of these moments I literally just stare at my signature for a while. Remember how you felt, and probably still feel when getting emails from someone at that level. Be proud of what you’ve accomplished. The current moment is just a wave. Hang in there!
You are not at ALL alone - lots of data around this. Definitely get hormones checked. All of this is very indicative of perimenopause, which can do a number on you and make you doubt yourself at the same time. I lived this last year and have dialed in hormones, supplements and some other non-traditional therapies and it’s been a world of difference. Find a good doctor or try telemedicine like My Alloy or Winona
Hormones, including testosterone. I am big on the combo of estradiol, progesterone and testosterone but not all want to go that route. Changed my life. I take a lot of supplements since I know my busy work schedule means I don’t get everything I need from food/normal meals. I magnesium at bedtime with melatonin, d3/fish oil and a few others. dr Mary Claire Haver is compelling on Instagram. Peter Attia’s Outlive is also really great.