Going through a very painful breakup after 10 months of a serious relationship that included living together, talking about marriage and kids, and were already looking to buy a home. The entire time during the relationship everything felt right, he was very loving, caring, supportive, etc. He always showed me how much I meant to him and how committed he was to our relationship. We never really had any sort of fights even living together.

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Best thing to do is give him space if you really want him to come back. But, if he left like he did when it was “easy” then how could you be confident he wont leave again when things get tough. Hate to say it but let it go

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What did you find in his email?

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This is the main question! If you (OP) are comfortable sharing this, may be we can advise more based on our capability.

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Had the same happen to me as a man dating an avoidant woman. It was also 10 months and just as intense. Do not fight for the relationship. He needs to figure out his attachment style before he is ever going to be ready to really be your partner. You deserve better. I say this as someone in the same spot as you who is hurting just as much as you are, trust me. You have your closure. It was when he chose to leave you understanding how much it would hurt you instead of confronting his fears that the relationship brought to the surface. Nothing else he can say will bring you any more peace than that

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We spent every day together from co-working to working out together. Everything was fun and we both enjoyed and appreciated each other’s company. Until a month ago, one morning I saw something on his email that didn’t seem right and I confronted him. He decided to move out and abruptly end things. Through this process I have learned about his avoidant attachment style which he never showed signs when the relationship was good. I don’t know what to do, or how to deal with this. I know he loves me and I do too. I want to fight for the relationship but I am scared to reach out to him and he’ll reject me. I am also trying to find closure to make decisions such as moving closer to my family as I don’t have anybody else where I live. When I met him, I told him I was considering moving to another city however, I ended up staying because of how happy I was in the relationship. He felt as the “one”. I’m 37 y/o F and I have never loved or gotten close to getting married as I did with him. I loved everything about us and our relationship.

I'm sorry for what you're going through. My wife and I share one email addy, and we each have our own personal addys. I'm an android person, because I don't get along with iPhones, which is what she uses. I would never try to look at her emails, as it's none of my business. Why were you looking at your bf's email, unless he was stupid enough to leave it open, even if it was by mistake?

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