Had opposing counsel refer to me as "young lady" in court. I'm in my 30s. How do you handle those subtle digs without losing your cool?

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Accept them with grace. If the speaker was far older than you, the words "young lady" would be common place for them to use, even in court. Not everything has to be blown out of proportion and the words "young lady" are far nicer than others that could have been used.

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A1, now you're splitting hairs. Should I take offense? Nah, not worth the time

Address it but asking them to not address you as young lady, or simply state your name to them to remind them.

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