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Has anyone here gone through the coming out process at our firms? Could use any pointers/lessons learned on process you could share!

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Also wanting to see replies on this. Anyone? Anyone? k tx 🏳️‍⚧️🙅🏻‍♀️

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I came out to one of my project teams by hosting a happy hour type event with conversation cards that I got online (virtually - so I drew randomized cards from my deck and we all took turns answering)! The questions are intentionally probing, so I could speak about my identity while my team members were also sharing more personal things about themselves 😊 Other times, my coming out has been in response to people misgendering me (so I liked in this case being able to lead with my experiences instead of it being a reactive conversation)!

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Very cool idea! Honestly my project teams are the easy part — we’ve been working together for so long that I think it would be a nice and casual thing (with who knows long an adjustment period lol) I guess I’m more curious about the formal steps with the firm and processes on that front. I see the appeal in switching companies and just being my true self at the new place, but I actually like where my career and professional reputation is right now and don’t want to start one

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Trans woman here. Once I decided to socially transition at work, I did it in waves starting with emails to a few leaders I work with. Once I had some positive responses, I got confidence to email HR about switching my name etc and then emailed a brief note individually to the folks I worked with extensively before my email switched over. Similarly sent a short note after the email switched to some main clients I worked with extensively and will likely work with again in the future. After everything switched over, I have my pronouns in my email and profile (and something about being trans in my internal bio so other trans colleagues can find me), but otherwise don’t do anything to “come out” to colleagues or clients unless I get misgendered (which doesn’t happen too much among internal folks).

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Oh these are fantastic! Leave it to someone from McKinsey to give us a good starting place. Not one to one adaptable, but close enough that I can definitely get an idea of how to structure my own. As any of y’all reading between the lines can see, I’m on the verge of taking this step myself. Our LGBTQ group has actually laid out a formal document outlining how this is supposed to work, but as always the devil’s in the details. (After all, we’re consultants — when do we *not* overthink everything?)

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I also put an LGBTQIA+ tag in my "Ask me about" section of my profile on our company intranet 😊

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I recently had to make a video for women’s day for work on a woman who inspires me so I said “Frida Kahlo inspires me bc she wasn’t afraid of who she was ... so that gave me the courage to be proud of being a queer latina woman” and that was that 🤷🏽‍♀️😅

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