Has anyone worked with a narcissistic coworker or manager? My manager for 3 years is very charming and charismatic and makes things about her. I’m afraid to call it out as she has very close relationships with the Partners and strong influence in the team. However, this person has manipulated me many times over the years and said different things when I reported to the upper management. It felt like gaslighting. I got promoted because of her recommendation, and withheld now because she said so.

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I have, but thankfully only for a short time. I would try to get as much as you can in writing, that way if she verbally says otherwise you have evidence to support this claim. As far as speaking up against her and bringing her behavior to light, I would maybe have a discussion with someone in HR or a partner you feel close with and have that conversation. If they can intervene, great.

As a last resort, I would just get on different projects.

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