Hey folks, I need a relationship/financial advice. Let’s say you have the following situation:

- Person 1 and 2 are divorced and have a shared custody of a child
- Person 1 and 3 are not married and also have a child, live together
- Person 1 is high earner
- Person 2 is low earner but has all credentials to at least do med earning, also got a very sizable alimony lump sum in divorce where they really don’t have to work if they chose to
- Person 3 is a med earner

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1. Do you think child of 1 and 2 and child of 1 and 3 deserve equal or different budget for child related expenses. Why or why not? What if they are different age but all we are only talking food, clothing, necessities?

2. Does the answer change if person 1 and 3 get married?

3. Does income or spending habits (living conservatively or living lush) of all parties play a role in what the right budget should be for one child and another.

4. General question, what’s fair?

I intentionally tried to keep information in this situation down to just facts.

If both are child of person 1, person 1 should provide equally to both child. Doesn't matter what relationship person 1 has with the other parent of any of the children. Esp if both are biological children of person 1

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