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Also I’m the primary breadwinner and my husband is going to quit his job to stay home with the kiddo so feeling a lot of pressure to stay put, happy or not
Exactly this. I was all about chasing the work and climbing the ladder, and then I got pregnant and I literally didn’t care about anything else. Had zero interest in going back to work, but also knew that staying home wasn’t an option. I also constantly have the internal battle of working through the young years so that I don’t lose myself completely and “have nothing” when she isn’t young anymore. So, some days I chase after the work, and other days I do what I have to and go play with my baby. Maybe when she’s older I’ll get my full motivation back, or maybe not. Either way, priorities have definitely shifted and we’re all just figuring it out
I remember this feeling when my first was born. I was so torn with going back to work or staying home but knew I needed to go back to work to support our family. I really did the bare minimum that first year, got a new job and eventually my drive and motivation came back. Had a second and felt not quite the same but still stalled myself for a year or so just do to the logistics of pumping and lack of sleep that first year. Now my kids are 5&9 and I’m super motivated to continue to be successful but in a way that works for myself and our family and allows time with the kids.
Second time mom here on mat leave and feeling the same, but these other comments are encouraging! I have until Thanksgiving left on leave.