Hi guys,need some help, i got married to my gf, so basically her family includes parent n one sister. Recently for her cousins marriage her mother asked her to buy one saree for her, we bough for her mother now she went home n her father also bought cloths with my wifes money, I dont understand how react cz I have sister but after marriage me or my family no one ever expected anything from her,not a single penny. Should i say my wife that why she spends money on them or is it right,

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Thoda open minded ho ja bro. Wo time gaya jahan shadi hui aur ladki sirf tumhari ho jati thi. Abhi jaise tum apne baap k bete ho, wo apne baap ki beti hai.
Tumhare ghar me khud pe ya ghar pe kharch karna pasand ni kiya jata but honestly ye tumhari problem hai, 1.5 lakh kama k agar 15 hajar wali lifestyle jeena pasand karte ho to bhagwan se dua mango ki kahen heart attack se na nipat jao ki ye sari kanjusi krne k bad khud ka paisa khud pe kharch ni kar paye.
Kama rahe ho to khud ko luxury bhi do, paise hone se ameer nhi hote, unhe kharch karne ki kabiliyat se hote hain aur pehle me bhi tere jaisa kanjus tha, khud pe 2000₹ bhi kharch ni kar pata tha pr jab biwi ko mere uper mere bday gift me 25-30 hajar kharch krte dekha to khud ko upgrade hi kiya saal dar saal.. baki tu jane, kaise rehna hai

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Wife par khrcha kam kro . It’s u spending on wife and wife ki salary bach jati toh wo apne gharwalo me kr r deti .
Split the bill . Share expenses equally be it rent / grocery / travel / tickets / parties / shopping . Phr wo apne salary se kuch bhi kre don’t mind !! But frst split the bill equally !!
What’s ur age ?
I mean itna sabko malum hai if u marry a grl with no brother u have to start spending on her family too .
Yeh sab sochna chahiye tha na pehle !!

They are using ur wife money for their financial benefits 😂😂😂😂
Thank god my parents never demanded anything from me as of now !!
Though they have invested a lot in my life !!

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Yeaah , you need to be very practical and wise . Yeh nahi ki lrki hai khrcha kr diye and then cribbing ki she is sending her money to dad mom . Share equally . She should also be responsible for her new family. See Ek toh tmne already shadi kr liya usse jiski koi bhai nahi hai toh yeh pehle sochna hi chahiye tha . That either of u have to be responsible for her parents once they get too old in life !!

Its not right...

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Dont know what to do yaar. See if it was case that her parents are old n not earning then diff case but they are earning , n still they asked her to buy… bcz of she have to spend money on marriage she was having 0 balance. Even for there home her father took money from her n now also…

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You should have thought about it before getting married. Being in love is good but you also have to be practical

How about getting a financial plan done against your goals and have the money allogned against those goals, once those are in place you both will know ur responsibilities against ur financial goals and these questions won't come up. Currently I see you have no goals set...so whatever is coming it's getting spent wherever possible. So let's start with creating buckets against the goals

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