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In case of contested divorce (not mutual), how long does the process take?
32 yr old Female here, I filed for divorce. I don't want any alimony and I have no demands. We had lot of incompatibilities and his family too was not good to me (no domestic violence but silent treatments and indifference). I'm done with this marriage and I can no longer continue with him and his family. So I'm walking out of this marriage. But he is not ready for divorce as he finds it shameful. But I'm of the

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But I'm of the opinion that simply staying in an unhappy marriage that affects your mental health is of no use. We even tried couple therapy but no use. So now I am going ahead with filing divorce in the court. Anyone who was in a similar situation? How much time does it take for the process? Will parents be involved in the process? (I don't want to bother my aged parents)

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Depends on the city and court. May take years, be assured it won't be a short affair

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Hi sis, me too here 31, F. I am going for a mutual one. I too had a bad marriage only of 2 months. If u feel like venting, pls reach out to me. I know its a very traumatic situation. Especially for us women. Il

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Launda hai ye

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Your lawyer will suggest you to file false 498a, dv act and crpc 125 cases against ur husband, and dont fall for that trap, if you fall for that you will be tagged as 498a women throught ur lifetime.
Good luck

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Let me tell you one thing, indeference will be there in all marraiges, u cannot find any marraige without it, marraige itself is an adjustment from both ends, so this will be same even if u get divorced and marry again. Don't believe in bollywood movies of what marraiges are 🙂.
I feel u shd sit and talk with ur husband on the difference u are facing. Explain what u can adjust and what u cannot, and let him know what he shd change about himself. Get into common terms and see if that works, try couples therapy it would be greater help.
As there is no domestic voilence and any harrasment, i feel its just a mindset adjustment needed from both of u.
FINAL TIP : you should also be aware of things which you do would have also hurt them, if that maturity is there with u then this issue can be resolved ammicably. Good luck 🙂

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Divorce should be the last option. Try finding a middle path.

PS: Been there, done that !

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