Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

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Ghost her. You always crave what you can’t get. She will come looking for you.

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Send her an email asking for status update and cc the parents

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That being said, give her space but voice out your perspective. Tell her that at the end of the day, whatever she chooses, she should stick to it. If she wants to end things, she can’t come back saying it was a mistake. If she wants to continue, it shouldn’t come up that she wasn’t 100% sure she wanted the relationship. If it’s time that she needs, give her but put a deadline to it ~1month or whatever you’re comfortable with. You know what you’re offering, don’t be okay with half assed efforts.

Even the people who love you will walk over you, if you let them. And you can’t force someone to stay, no matter how much you love them. It’s not right to them or YOU.
All the best :)

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Thank you for the replies. I have decided to move on because even the bare minimum wasn't being met ( 1 phone call a week). When I broke it off this morning she begged me to reconsider but not worth it

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save yourself ....move on ....jab shaadi ke pehle bhav nhi mil raha tho baad mein kya milega

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Thank you for the replies. I have decided to move on because even the bare minimum wasn't being met ( 1 phone call a week). When I broke it off this morning she begged me to reconsider but not worth it

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Which country are you in?

USA, Midwest

Sorry to hear this. I understand how vulnerable you might be feeling. But it’s important to give her her space, let her think about it and come back with an answer she is comfortable with.

They say - if you really love her, let her go and she will come back.

Give her space.

Move on.

I’m sorry to hear this. Is it more common for the girl’s parents to come with rishta or the guy’s?

How does that matter?

✨ m a n i f e s t ✨

Jk jk
Unless?

Move on. She may think of you as the backup option. Either way you dodged a bullet.

Typical desi mentality by P3

Long distance relationships are not easy, requires a lot of understanding patience, investment of time and emotions and most importantly trust.

Time to make choices if you see her as a potential life partner but make sure she is equally invested in the relationship. What you are describing does not sound good!

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